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Im scared and i need help
So my name is Audrey and I'm 13 years old. Im in middle school and my life is really good. Sometimes i wish i was born into another family but this time it was all my fault. I go to church you see and last Sunday church was over and the next part of church that was about to happen i never stay for so we were about to leave. On my way out of the door i saw a little pink iPhone SE. my first reaction was to pick it up... so i did. It didn't have a password so i opend up the phone and started looking through the photos to see if I recognized anyone in the pictures i didn't. When it was time to leave i took it with me and brought it home. Im not aloud to have a phone yet and so i had to keep it a secret from my grandma so i didnt get in trouble. So I continued to search the photos for any hint of who it belonged to. Nothing. People kept calling and so i turned off the phone because i was scared they would think that i stole the phone. I DIDN'T! also i did not want to have my grandma hear the phone ringing every three seconds. I brought it to school the next day and continued looking through photos. Still nothing. It started to ring during class and so i turned it off and decided just to bring it back to church the next Sunday to the person who had dropped it or something, when i got home i put the phone on my desk and left for dinner. When i got home it was gone and after i found this out it turned out the people who had lost the phone were tracking it and were not able to trace it while it was off so they thought i had stolen it. My grandma is pissed. And i cant find the phone anywhere even after we searched the whole house. We don't have the money to replace it what should i do. Im scared really really scared.
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If they have tracking on their phone, I dont see why they cannot track it inside your house.
You are so scared you aren't making sense. You say you decided to bring it back to church the following Sunday to the person who lost it but you earlier said you didn't know whose phone it was. So either you did find out and didn't return it promptly or you still didn't know. Lessons to be learned from this, taking something that isn't yours , you realize now is not the right thing to do.
Even if you were allowed to have a phone, having it in your possession originally with nothing other than short term plans of enjoying it and no idea what you would do once it ran out of battery or if you found a way to charge it, what you would do if at the end of month, the carrier wasn't paid by the owner and the phone became useless.
All of this is common in people until they reach their mid twenties, this kind of thinking without looking at all angles and possible consequences later on. What is happening is your front lobe of brain is still growing and not mature and won't be until your twenties. So your body looks mature long before your brain gets there so you will be prone to making dumb decisions. Hey, I remember my own dumb decisions, a few but one thing you can do is rememver to ask an adult about something you'd like to do. If you know already they would say no, then you know not to do it.
What should have happened is when you found the phone, you ask around any adult at church to see if there is a lost and found or someone it can be turned over to. I do that when I find someones phone. I found one two months ago in a Starbucks bathroom. The person who misplaced their phone will mentally track all their stops that day and go back and ask if a phone was turned in if they don't have tracking. That is how I found my missing key ring I dropped in a grocery. Someone found it and turned it in. SO when I went asking the next day, they had my keys in the stores lost and found.
I don't know what the people will want to do. Obviiously they will want a phone to use and may have to buy a new one. At your age, you cant work a job yet to pay them back. You can find odd jobs walking a dog, raking leaves, whatever and give the people what you earn.
Right now, I feel something is missing in information. So calm down and think again. You said you put it on your desk, in your room I assume, and then you went to dinner. I at first thought you meant to the dining room at home. However you next say, When I got home it was gone. This means you left the house. So that means you went to eat out. Did you go alone, or did grandma go too? Who else lives in the house. Where any of those people who live with you at the house, at home when you left to go out to eat? A phone doesn't sprout legs and walk off, so that means someone else who lives under the aame roof as you was snooping in your room, which is a no no, that someone took the phone and what they did with it once they removed it from your desk, is up for guesses. They could have hidden it. They could have decided to keep it for themselves secretly, or maybe try to sell it, or it could just have been thrown away in the garbage. What if someone threw it in garbage thinking that would teach you a lesson not to keep things that don't belong to you. But if anyone older than you did that, they would be too embarassed to fess up now. I think you'll have to assume it is gone now and see if the people will work out a deal. Maybe you can do work around their home and what you would have earned all goes towards a portion of what you would owe them. They will have to buy a new phone. If the old phone does show up at some point, you make sure those people get their old one back. Yes they have a new one but the old one can be back up in case the new one stops working right or gets lost. I recently lost a phone. All I can think is that after using it in a grocery store to locate where my husband was, I dropped it into purse pocket, or so I thought, and it fell to the floor and I didn't hear it. I checked their lost and found the next day when I realized it was gone and no one had turned it in. They found it and did the same thing you did, keep it.
I know you say you didn't steal it But I don't think thats how the law would look at it. For example just from TV, I believe there is such a thing as when someone is killed, the killer either is considered to have planned it before it happened, premeditated murder, or murdered without having planned it before, on the spot snap decision. So now we talk of stealing. A person can plan to look for a phone to steal, or they can see one sitting around without an owner near by and take it. No matter if planned ahead or on the spot, taking something that is yours, is still stealing, same as murder is murder whether you planned it out and did it or got in an angry rage at someone and killed them on the spot.
Just be willing to talk to grandma, the phones owners and apologize and let them know that although you did plan to go stealing a phone, when you came upon it, the urge to take it was strong. You know now that it was wrong and perhaps they stil see it as stealing. Then tell them in private that you had it sitting on your desk and when you got home from going out to dinner, it was gone. Unless you have a poltergeist in your home, a flesh and blood human took it. So let them know that someone else had to have grabbed it and isn't confessing. Either way, you would like to offer your services to them to work off the debt of their needing to get a new phone. I know it sucks but when we have to do a hard thing afterwards, it will be something we don't ever forget and you will make better choices in the future. You are not a bad person. Once you reach your mid twenties, you will be making great decisions all the time. You did decide to return it and that counts as something with me but then, its not my phone. I hope this all works out well for you.
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