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How can I show that I can be consistent?
I really like my bf and I know he really likes me too. The problem is, he thinks I’m inconsistent and it bothers him. One day I told him I would eat with him but I ended up sitting with my friend because she had a problem going on. And a few times I’ve fallen asleep before texting him. He believes this is inconsistency but I think it’s coincidence because I’m a pretty consistent person. How can I show him that I can be consistent and how do I make sure he knows I’m not hurting him on purpose?
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What you think you are doing is consistency but what he thinks he sees is inconsistency, means that you have to talk and explain what he is seeing. Because be honest, if anyone were doing the same thing to you, you would at least wonder what was up or think they are breaking promises or in consistent.
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I can already see a problem. You promised to sit with him at lunch but a friend going through a bad time needed your company. YOu tell her you will sit with her but have to talk for a minute to your boyfriend. Then you walk over and explain what has come up. If he gets upset, thats on him, not your doing. He is not the great guy you think if he gets angry and won't acknowledge that it is okay that you be there for your friend.
You need to call or text him the moment you wake up and let him know you had fallen asleep so couldn't text, even if you are now texting him at 3 AM. Anyone can lie about it but who would get up at 3AM to text someone just to make their excuse seem more plausible?
While consistency is seen by witnessing the same action over and over whether good or bad, he is misinterpreting what happens and what he sees. He is doing the right thing in watching you close to look for inconsistencies and is doing nothing wrong. Once you explain to him, if he doesn't believe, or give you another chance to talk to him and let him know of changes next time, then he is the problem.
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