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anxiety
I am 29 years old. I have been in a relationship for over 10 years. Every time he leaves the house without me or even if he is at work I get anxiety. He has lied to me multiple times in the past and he has a code on his phone. If i go near it he freaks out. Clearly I know something is wrong but the reason I stay is because of loneliness and fear. We have a child together and I dont have close family or friends. I dont know what to do. I have communicated with him but nothing has changed. I know I should leave but I battle between being alone and feeling alone.
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sweetheart dont leave now thats my advice to y leave when yr sure y can move on without him plus who lies in a relationship one will keep lieingalways but y need some tips to get more confidence love yrself nd fear losing yrself then losing him . if that s possible y can contact me cz are man tipes .
i m rawand women from tunisia . i experienced many things like this beforebut now i m feeling super good thats why i decide to give free advices to everyone who needs it . cz i knowhow hard it is what yr goingthrough....
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Until your fears of being alone are dealt with, you will be with this samw guy in an unsatisfactory relationship. When a person is 'consistent' in living out positive traits, there is no reason to doubt or mistrust. When a person however in inconsistent, nice sometimes but mixing that up with lies and worse, then they can not be trusted to always be living out positive traits and that is why you do not trust him and you have valid reasons. In this case, you are not the problem because you mistrust him, he is the problem for not being consistent in a good way. Consistent means always the same, with out any changes. Usually if a person suffers anxiety, it is not selective, only pertaining to one thing. I used to have social anxiety and it covered everything, not just one situation. Comparing with how I live life now, free of fears and stress and lots of confidence instead, I can only say that your circumstances, are something you won't be able to change until you work on yourself first. It isn't something you can figure out on your own. I would recommend seeing a psychologist as they deal with not only mental disease but things like phobias, anxieties. And I also recommend seeing a Dr. who uses meds as a last resort and tries first to see if you can be healed by using CBT, Cognitive Behavioral therapy.
If you have no insurance, I suggest going through a web site by a psychologist who used to only give meds until he learned of CBT from his colleagues and has gone on to train new Drs in this type of treatment and created more helpful ways to deal with the mind and became an author and written books for people like you and I. The same way he writes to deal with my past anxiety, I got that info elsewhere and followed it and it healed me so I know what he does, really works. You can find that website at: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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