There is this boy at school that I REALLY like but he and I are EXSACT opasites! He is popular and athletic and I am a anime obsessed Dork! we don't really talk but he is nice when we do!The dance is in 3 weeks and I don't know what to do HELP!!!!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Dragonflymagic answered Thursday August 1 2019, 9:05 pm: Being a popular jock at school, he very well may have been approached already by other girls. Unless he is not attracted to the looks, he will likely accept one of the first invites he gets. If he isn't already dating a girl, in which case he'll go with her, if single, boys like it when they don't always have to ask because they fear the same thing as girls do, rejection. A no answer doesn't mean you are a reject as a person. It simply means they don't feel any chemistry with you. Chemistry isn't something you have control over. I met many guys I thought would make a great husband online and when we met in person neither of us, or only he felt that kind of romantic attraction needed for such a relationship.
If you think that being into anime makes you less desireable, I have a daughter now 30 who has a long term boyfriend who supports her love of anime and even going to every cos play convention in her area. SHe is getting extremely good at making her own costumes to represent an anime character and is very talented at it. This takes lots of creativity and other talents. A couple can have their obvious differences but find they are compatible and have similar interests in other areas. I know the daughters boyfriend seemed reluctant. Over the years, there have been other boyfriends, one in particular who helped her with fashioning boots to go with a costume and the top or bra piece and he was good at it. You never know.
So ask him or if too embarrassed to ask out loud, make a note like kids used to do in grade school with the question do you like me, yes or no and they have to circle one answer. Make a note, will you go to the dance with me, and it could be a yes or no box for him to check one. This way no one nearby hears and it should feel less awkward.
A better way to getting a date with a guy is just becoming friends first. So if this fails, and he shows no interest at all besides just giving a friendly hi, (his parents could have raised him to be friendly and polite to all, no matter if he liked them or not) you'll have to try my way.
Fnd a guy you like by appearances, one you feel even more special abut when near him and start up conversation with him. For learning how to start a conversation, start watching others who have no trouble with it. The first line is either pertaining to a situation they are both in or the paying of a compliment. For situation, being in the same class, you can ask how he did on a test, don't be afraid to share your grade if not as good, just "as you can see, I struggle a bit with that." Being honest makes you more real and relaxing to be with than someone who says, I can do better than you did. Or if there is a substitute teacher one day, you can ask, so what did you think of our sub? Do not ask questions that can be answered with a yes or no, that means closed ended questions because as soon as they answer yes or no they stop talking and you are back where you started. So you would never put it this way "Did you like the substitute teacher?" He says, No or yes. And then you're stuck having to think of something else to say.
The trick is that talking to guys is a lot like talking to girlfriends except you leave out certan subject matters like talk of hair cuts, finger nail art, chick flicks, that sort of thing. In church I stopped hanging out with the females after church at the social hour. All they wanted to talk about every single time was their birthing stories and chick flicks. I began to stand around having conversation with their husbands because there was so much more we could converse on.
As for compliments, make sure it is sincere. If complimenting on the style of color of his shirt, you better like it for real, otherwise, only compliment when its something you actually find eye catching, otherwise people are able to tell something doesnt feel sincere.
Lets say you complimented on his shirt. This next part helps with questions you ask too. What you do is really listen to all of their answer because you will be looking for something in their reply that you can latch on to for a reason for the next thing you ask or state. So lets say, yeah, my sister gave it to me for my birthday. There are two possibilities, the sister for a topic or his birthday, so you can ask'Oh, when is your birthday and follow it with, so what is your sun sign then? Or you have a sister with great taste. Is she older or younger than you? and when he gives an age, then share a bit from your situation, whether you have a sister older or younger, how many siblings and once done telling him, you can then ask how many siblings he has. Then you both cna compare where you fall, whether middle child, oldest, youngest and the plusses and minuses to those positions. With each new answer or comparision you make sharing bits of your life, you learn about each other. Funny thing is, this is how you learned about the girls who became your girl friends, maybe not the fist day if all you did is play together but at some point you talked and learned about each other. This is why I say its not really different with guys. So ask him and if it doesn't work out, I;ve given you pointers on starting conversations with other guys. Good luck. [ Dragonflymagic's advice column | Ask Dragonflymagic A Question ]
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