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Annoyed: I'm stuck in the rut of liking guys but they don't like me back
My love life is pretty terrible and I'm stuck in the rut of liking guys but they don't like me back or they like me and I have no interest back. Anyways in the past I haven't really liked younger guys and usually go for older guys but sometimes like younger guys if they are sweet but yes, have a lot to learn. Anyways I kinda like a guy who is younger but I am not sure if he likes me back. I used to message him a lot but lately I haven't had time to make conversation. Sometimes after not speaking for a while he talks a lot. He told me once he doesn't like to text which made me kinda annoyed but was very polite about it. Then told me he wanted to keep me around and I am fun to be around. I've got an awesome personality and says he doesn't know how to say it but he wants me to be around and to be friends... He's very sweet and asked about how my mom was doing since she was in the hospital. But, I'm confused and wondering if it's too early to tell if there is a connection. Definitely a friend connection and have stuff in common. We hang out in an awesome group of friends and he can't drink much LOL. But, while he was drinking I overheard him say my name to a friend we were talking to and couldn't hear what he was saying due to loud music. He then told me he wanted to kiss me and I laughed. I then realized that's probably his alcohol talking. I do catch him looking at me but maybe he's just comfortable around me. I'm not sure what to think of him and think it might be too early to say he likes me that way. I know he's looking for a girlfriend but for some reason I can't seem to test the water. I have been hurt so many times and it sounds like he has been too. Sorry for any typos and thanks for reading.
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As a young guy with crazy social anxiety, and just gettimg out of the exact same situation you are in now, I think I can give you some hopefully decent advice lol.
First off this guy your talking about seemes to just like you as a friend and maybe he is hoping for a "friends with benefits" kind of deal, I can't know for shure, it depends on how long you've been talking. If it wasn't the alcohol talking when he wanted to kiss you then hes keeping you around for the right moment...if you catch my drift. Also no guy is ever going to "dislike texting" if it's with a girl they actually like. I personally look forward to whenever a girl who I like is texting me, especially if I know shes into me as well. Its really the only way to get know people anymore lol.
I know a few guys who do similar things that this dude seems to be doing and their intentions are never really for the right reasons. For example my friend just did the same thing to a girl to make his ex jealous. So im just gonna be careful around that guy and try not to get to hopefull.
So first of all set a rule of age for yourself. Its what I did after dateing a few girls who might have been a little to old for me. My rule now is either 3 years younger, same age, or 3 years over. The only exception I hold to that is if I met someone truly a one of a kind person. Typically dating someone who is "too" young or "too" old leads to poor connections, and relationships are built on what you have in common with another person and we typically find connections with those who are closer to our age.
Also make shure your know your self first. It's hard to find someone when you can't even find your self.
Also just put yourself out there. It been working for me. Even it means haveing a silly amount of dateing apps on your phone or whatnot.
To sum it all up I'm just gonna say "just keep swimming". Maybe if you just power through it all eventually you'll come across the guy that will definitely work for you. Sometimes the best things in life just come to us, instead of us trying to find it.
Good luck. I hope my advice can help.
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