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What’s he saying?
what does it mean when an ex boyfriend says, “we can go and join them as a couple?” We are still friends and in a good term. We see each other 3 times a week. I’m 30 and he’s 32. He’s got a kid with his ex wife and got a kid with current girlfriend but him and I still are in contact and message each other and we still chat up. I just feel like he still loves me and maybe wants to get back together one day otherwise why would he say we can join them as a couple..? Is he saying something because as a couple mean we’re still in a relationship, isn’t it? What does exactly mean we can go as a couple? Please do explain!
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I don;t know whats in his head but saying we can go as a couple may also mean that you aren't a couple but will pretend to be a couple.
What do you want, a man who loves you not just on the outside but everything about you on the inside as well? Thats a good thing, the kind of guy who wants to grow old together with you. This guy may be having a hard time figuring out exactly who that kind of woman is since he has an ex and a current girlfriend and child. Not trying to rain on your parade dear but right now, unless he learns real quick what the woman that he wants to be with the rest of his life is like inside and out, then you will only become one more female in a long line of women he leaves weeping in the dust behind him. Then on the other hand, perhaps he is in love with you. I have something to share, a few questions you answer as to whether true about him or not. That should help you get a clearer idea if he is a keeper or whether you should let him go. This hanging out with you 3 x a week, etc. is not really a breakup. If you decide he is worth staying with after you read through the following piece, written by a guy for women to which I added more, then he may need to read over and follow instructions I have on how to find Ms Right/Mr. Right. Without following that program, I would not have realized my 2nd husband was the one for me. You can always ask me for that, It would help you and also him. Now, how to know if he loves you:
7 Questions to know if he really loves you
1. Does he say I love you. For some, it's a hard thing to say but they show it to you in other ways. When he says I love you, he is viewing that as a commitment to you. It is not a flippant phrase.
Saying I love you too early like during first couple dates is a warning about the guy. Its a very good chance he is needy and wanting a woman to be his mom. Other phrases from a guy count too, like you're awesome, I adore you. You're the woman I always dreamed of.
2. Does he make you a priority in his life? Guys have more than one priority...things very important to him but you should be one of top 3.
What he does for you or how he acts can't be faked easily because it's hard to lie with your body. Things he does without having to be asked, making dinner, picking up something for a collection you have, making time for you, even if it's a walk or a long phone chat. If the guy likes you, he'll make time for you at least a quarter of the time.
3 Does he tell friends about you and like to show you off? Have you been introduced to his family and friends? If he keeps you separate, he's hiding something or ashamed or fearful of something
4. Does he care about your pleasure during sex? Is he only into seeking his own pleasure or your's too. Does he open his eyes and want to have both your eyes connect while making love?
5. Does he respect and encourage you? Respect means, does he value your opinion, do you share decisions and treats you as a partner. Are you encouraged by him to have your own friends and hobbies outside the relationship and encourage you to seek your dreams and uphold you in that.
Jealousy is not love, it's control. It's okay to be protective, but jealousy shouldn't be what prompts the protectiveness
6. Do your friends and family like how he treats you? Others make a great gauge for judging a guys character.
7. Does he look at you with lust and passion in his eyes, with a hunger and thirst for you? Does he give you admiring looks, does he still want to sneak peeks down your shirt. What he sees is Very important since guys are visually stimulated. If he isn't looking anymore, he has lost his interest. All men because of this natural trait, will also view other women but do so discreetly, without being an ass about it. Don't expect a man to look at only you. If he doesn't look at other women at all, it may be a sign that he is gay. You do want a man who is visually stimulated by women.
How many points are true for you with your guy?
7 true He treats you as a Queen and he is an exceptional man
5-6 true He loves you. Just don't focus on what is lacking.
3-4 true He loves you enough to make the relationship work for him. If it's enough for you, then be content. If you feel like you're settling for less, let him go and look for something better.
1-2 true He's a douche-bag, a user or controller. Leave immediately.
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