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Mocking me for minding my business
so, i usually don't mingle in other's business because i'm just not interested in it .
most of the people in my class and the other class talk trash about me just because i'm quiet. and i'll make this clear i'm not a nerd xD .
i only talk when the other person talks to me or when i need something , other than that i don't speak much . i just sit quietly doing my stuff
but, these people/my classmates when they talk trash about me and also try to ridicule me it kinda makes me angry but i'm just not giving into my emotions and trying to remain calm
i honestly don't know how long i can do this because if this keeps happening i'm afraid that i might start a fight.
because the stuff they say really makes me angry, one fellow called me a psycho , 3 times to my face and i had to pretend as if i didn't listen that.
and they also make up weird songs and sing that points towards me indirectly ,
idk what to do other than to fight ofcourse xD
Thankyou for taking your time in reading this !
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If it makes you angry, then you need to understand that subconsciously the words go in your ears and at that level you are owning those words, believing it as if what they say is true of you.
I was like you all the way thru HS, so I know what I am talking about.
The best thing you can do is to laugh and join in on their comments.
For example, I wore what ever I liked in clothing styles which wasn't always the newest clothing trend. So I got teased for what I wore. It wasn't til I was older I realized that if someone said I wore something that looks so lame or whatever, the best response is to reply, "Yup, I chose to wear this in hopes it would irritate you, is it working yet? However you say this with a smile, in a teasing tone, as if they were just teasing. As an adult, I know now that people who will tease me at times, are not meaning mean, they just don't know how to change their tone of voice to give you a clue its a friendly tease. Since I don't know what exactly this talking trash involves, I can only give a couple of basic examples. If you have some specific things said and need an example for a reply, write me back but do so from my column or I won't be able to respond from rating comments section. Just in case they are seriously trying to pick a fight and get you angry enough to fight, keep this in mind, A person who keeps verbally bugging you is doing so because they get something out of it. You are not yet fighting, but since they keep doing it, they are still getting something out of it. I am betting its the look on your face and the fact you keep silent. If you have to practice, get a family member, sibling, cousin to practice with you, Give them permission to randomly toss an insult at you when you are not expecting it and practice smiling at their insult and finding a way to make them laugh. If the insult is your hair is sticking up and makes you look like bed head. Try to picture that, try to learn to find it funny enough to smile or laugh at the insult and then you could say, "Darn, really, it looks like bed head? Then use a cartoon character that is popular, I am older so I would say, Gee I was trying to go for the look of Woody the woodpecker. If all your responses are like this, I am pretty sure that those who really meant to hurt you will stop because there is no longer any reward to them for doing so. Those who tease because they like you and don't know any other way to befriend you, will laugh along and think you're pretty cool. And in doing all this, you will discovered you've gained a thicker skin, so it doesn't bother you anymore. Mind you I struggled with this at your age but by time I was a young adult, I began to learn and adopt this and now I am quite a friendly funny person and thats the first impression even strangers have of me. Good luck.
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