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How do I endure?
Hi, I am a female, 18-19,forgive me if my English is bad, I am from Namibia, Africa . I just graduated from highschool a few months ago now I am in a private institution studying Graphic Design. The thing is I am only studying it because my parents want me to. I tried telling them I wanted to study something else but they wouldnt listen to me . I tried telling them that I instead wanted to study Make Up Artistry for a while but they fliped their crap instead since its less proffessional. I eventually submitted . I know my parents want the best for me and love me and want me to be successful but I want to at least study something that I am passionate about. I decided to put my feelings aside and just complete my three year course but I am 'miserable'. I feel like I am slowly dying inside. To make things worse I study in another country and I get homesick sometimes. I just dont know how I am going to handle this for three years.How can I endure?
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Hello from USA )) Hon I really don't know what to say that will make you feel good about your situation. Parents often do this to their kids thinking they know better than anyone else. I wish I could talk to your parents and help them understand how this is going to affect your career and moreover your personality and confidence.
It looks like you are really passionate about doing Make Up Artistry, meaning it is something that you always had in your mind and not just because your friends are doing the same.
Do tell your parents about how you feel 'miserable' and 'dead inside'. May be you being honest help them know and understand your situation, may be turn them around emotionally ))I would also talk to a common family friend with whom you can share your thoughts and who can influence your parents and make them realize how their decision is not helping anyone!
Assuming you are not able to get out of this, please don't stop reading and learning more about your passion. In fact being in a different country gives you the opportunity and freedom to do that.
As far as your Graphic Designing course, don't just give up on it yet. I know you just started the course and that is making it more difficult and being away from your home country makes it even worse! I would have studied just enough to complete the course, but be determined to learn as much as I can about Make Up Artistry. I would have even tried taking some online course simultaneously to keep me busy and motivated doing my passion. Once you are settled in few months, you can even take up some part time make up job which will not only give you some additional money but also make you feel good about yourself. As far as homesickness that is obvious and you will have to give yourself some time. Make new friends and don't keep bringing that thought to your mind all the time.
I don't know what else to tell you sweetie. It's like sometimes we have to go through and experience what we don't want in order to know more and more about what we truly want and your parents are just playing a part in this game :)
Good luck and let us know how it goes
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