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Possible pregnancy..
I am 25 and I Broke up with my boyfriend(27) 2 months ago but haven't completely severed the bedroom fun..the relationship ended because he is an alcoholic but Last night I wanted him to release inside of me, he normally pulls out. He did and then did it again 3 more times after that.. He is older than me and we have talked bout having kids. I know having a baby to save a relTionships is a piss poor way to start a family but I don't know if that's what he is thinking. What do i do?
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You start using protection.
Assuming you aren't, you definitely should be.
You are right. Having a baby with your alcoholic ex-boyfriend is a incredibly stupid idea! If he thinks that is a good idea, then he might not be a person who is safe to have sex with. Definitely not a person to have unprotected sex with.
So either start using protection, or stop sleeping with him. It's impossible to know what he is thinking - unless you ask him - but you do know exactly what he DID, and you need to be responsible and safe regardless of what silly thoughts he's got going on.
Take care of yourself first. Don't take risks.
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The only way to know what he is thinking is to ask him. But most likely, he sees you as someone he can take advantage of for just the sex because you are a female who is weak in character. From what little you say dear, as an older female who is very sexual herself still and not a prude, my first impression is that your sending a message of weakness to him by going to him for sex, even though you didn't want a relationship with him due to his drinking. Just because you like the sex doesnt mean you should be accepting the rest of the package deal.
If you were gluten intolerant and went to buy a loaf of bread, it has wheat, something you can't tolerate, you reason that, well, I like the eggs and yeast and other ingrediants so much, I'll take it. You make yourself sick eating it.
How does it relate to you? In time, you may come to despise yourself for not going for anything better. If you could have the sex, but a man who has no vices like drinking, drugs or gambling and he treats you like a Queen, in comparison, would you still stay with this one? Babys dont save relationships. and it sure as hell wont make him stop drinking. You already know that. If you're SOOO in love with him that you're not ready to give up, then how about talking to him about his going into a rehab center and when he can come out and be alcohol free for a year, then you will think about a future with him. This gives him something to work for. If he doesnt really care that much about losing you, he won't do it. And you will then know exactly how important you are to him. This is the point at which you'd no longer have anything to do with him. no contact by phone or IM's or in person for sex. You have plenty of time yet before having kids so theres no hurry. You can take the time to find someone who is a better package deal.
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