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I don't believe in god and I want to be an athiest
I want to be an athiest because I just don't believe in god and I want to tell my parents but they wud be so mad how do I break it down to them that I don't believe in god?
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This is your own personal belief. You don't really need to tell them.
It's the same thing as like coming out to your parents that you're gay. A lot of people feel the need to do it, but I think it's only necessary when you become serious with someone and they need to meet your family.
If you don't believe in God, you don't need to tell them if it was cause unnecessary problems.
If you really feel the need to tell them, just come out and say it. They'll be mad and upset, but eventually they'll accept it. Don't argue your points as to why you don't believe, just say it and leave it at that.
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I don't know what type of church background the parents have so their reaction may differ depending on what type of Christian belief they adher to, or why they attend a church.
If the parents attend a church and say they believe in God more because their parents always did and its a family heritage thing and social thing than a true solid belief, chances are they will be understanding and allow you to go your own path. If its a Catholic church, some can be very open minded so it all depends. If on the other hand, the parents are involved in something more like Baptist, Assembly of God, or any other spirit filled, speaking in tongues church...then you're just going to have to face the fact that no matter how you tell them, this will be opening a can of worms so to speak. I used to be with such churches and decided to blindly accept everything I was told, narrow minded thinking, not thinking for myself however later in life, not through influence of any people or society, but thru spiritual influence that came from within me, I have developed my own beliefs which are more pagan, earth based, with a belief in God and Goddess which is also seen in my eyes as Jesus and Holy Spirit.
It could be that you are truly atheist, or it could be that like me, you are more against all the lies, indoctrination, the twisting of original intents in the bible or of Jesus words, sick of the blind beliefs, the man made doctrines, etc... that misrepresent God. It may not be that you don't believe in God but that you don't believe in the God they believe in because I can tell you right now, that God does not exist. Doe a God exist? Is there some higher power? I believe so but only through personal experience.
Experience makes the difference. Theres that saying, "I'll believe it when I see it." For me it has been, "I'll believe it when I experience it." Once upon a time, I did not believe in spirit guides. I had no choice but to believe once I experienced mine showing up and seeing him clearly in my mind as clear as seeing a person with your eyes open.
You know your parents best so it's up to you whether to be subtle and give hints by questionings things and finally telling them or just getting it over it and making the statement, I don't believe in God, I am an atheist.
It might be easier to leave out the word Atheist and say something like,
"I don't believe in the type of God that you and I don't know what type of church background the parents have so their reaction may differ depending on what type of Christian belief they adher to, or why they attend a church.
If the parents attend a church and say they believe in God more because their parents always did and its a family heritage thing and social thing than a true solid belief, chances are they will be understanding and allow you to go your own path. If its a Catholic church, some can be very open minded so it all depends. If on the other hand, the parents are involved in something more like Baptist, Assembly of God, or any other spirit filled, speaking in tongues church...then you're just going to have to face the fact that no matter how you tell them, this will be opening a can of worms so to speak. I used to be with such churches and decided to blindly accept everything I was told, narrow minded thinking, not thinking for myself however later in life, not through influence of any people or society, but thru spiritual influence that came from within me, I have developed my own beliefs which are more pagan, earth based, with a belief in God and Goddess which is also seen in my eyes as Jesus and Holy Spirit.
It could be that you are truly atheist, or it could be that like me, you are more against all the lies, indoctrination, the twisting of original intents in the bible or of Jesus words, sick of the blind beliefs, the man made doctrines, etc... that misrepresent God. It may not be that you don't believe in God but that you don't believe in the God they believe in because I can tell you right now, that God does not exist. Doe a God exist? Is there some higher power? I believe so but only through personal experience.
Experience makes the difference. Theres that saying, "I'll believe it when I see it." For me it has been, "I'll believe it when I experience it." Once upon a time, I did not believe in spirit guides. I had no choice but to believe once I experienced mine showing up and seeing him clearly in my mind as clear as seeing a person with your eyes open.
You know your parents best so it's up to you whether to be subtle and give hints by questionings things and finally telling them or just getting it over it and making the statement, I don't believe in God, I am an atheist.
It might be easier to leave out the word Atheist and say something like,
"I don't believe in the type of God that you and the church believes in. Not sure I can tell you what I believe in but it certainly isn't that. If God does exist, then I want to be able to discover that on my own in my own way, and part of it includes no longer pretending I believe exactly like you by attending church."
If they were agreeable to you attending a church of your own choosing, then to transition out of the Christian indoctrination, youurch of your own choosing, then to transition you might check out the Universalist churches, Unitarians, and see if any members of such churches would be willing to pick you up if you don't drive yet or have a car. If the parents don't know much about these churches, they may be willing to let you go and be satisfied. They are accepting of people of all faiths who come together to support each other. I attended a few times with a boyfriend. I liked it well enough...reminded me more of a social gathering and support type group rather than a church so it may be tolerable for you until you reach legal age and can make your own decisions no matter what mom and dad likes. As long as you are under their roof and under age, they know they are responsible for your training whether they are misguided or not they are doing the best they can.
Here's a twist, start praying that their eyes would be opened to really spot the inconsistencies in indoctrination and start thinking for themselves. My non Christian sister did that for me even tho it looked like I'd never come around, but I did, my eyes were opened and I began to make my own spiritual choices and beliefs.
You might have interest in something called the Urantia Book. I've read it and it answered lots of questions the church can not. It includes how we evolved from apes and then later a couple named Adam and Eve were sent to help guide the people who evolved here, Adam and Eve story totally different from bible, and story of heaven, God and all the levels of spiritual beings as never explained in church, a different story of Jesus and his reason for coming to earth, it wasn't to die for our sins, etc...I am sure you will enjoy it whether you believe it or not. heres the link: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
the church believes in. Not sure I can tell you what I believe in but it certainly isn't that. If God does exist, then I want to be able to discover that on my own in my own way, and part I don't know what type of church background the parents have so their reaction may differ depending on what type of Christian belief they adher to, or why they attend a church.
If the parents attend a church and say they believe in God more because their parents always did and its a family heritage thing and social thing than a true solid belief, chances are they will be understanding and allow you to go your own path. If its a Catholic church, some can be very open minded so it all depends. If on the other hand, the parents are involved in something more like Baptist, Assembly of God, or any other spirit filled, speaking in tongues church...then you're just going to have to face the fact that no matter how you tell them, this will be opening a can of worms so to speak. I used to be with such churches and decided to blindly accept everything I was told, narrow minded thinking, not thinking for myself however later in life, not through influence of any people or society, but thru spiritual influence that came from within me, I have developed my own beliefs which are more pagan, earth based, with a belief in God and Goddess which is also seen in my eyes as Jesus and Holy Spirit.
It could be that you are truly atheist, or it could be that like me, you are more against all the lies, indoctrination, the twisting of original intents in the bible or of Jesus words, sick of the blind beliefs, the man made doctrines, etc... that misrepresent God. It may not be that you don't believe in God but that you don't believe in the God they believe in because I can tell you right now, that God does not exist. Doe a God exist? Is there some higher power? I believe so but only through personal experience.
Experience makes the difference. Theres that saying, "I'll believe it when I see it." For me it has been, "I'll believe it when I experience it." Once upon a time, I did not believe in spirit guides. I had no choice but to believe once I experienced mine showing up and seeing him clearly in my mind as clear as seeing a person with your eyes open.
You know your parents best so it's up to you whether to be subtle and give hints by questionings things and finally telling them or just getting it over it and making the statement, I don't believe in God, I am an atheist.
It might be easier to leave out the word Atheist and say something like,
"I don't believe in the type of God that you and the church believes in. Not sure I can tell you what I believe in but it certainly isn't that. If God does exist, then I want to be able to discover that on my own in my own way, and part of it includes no longer pretending I believe exactly like you by attending church."
If they were agreeable to you attending a church of your own choosing, then to transition out of the Christian indoctrination, youurch of your own choosing, then to transition you might check out the Universalist churches, Unitarians, and see if any members of such churches would be willing to pick you up if you don't drive yet or have a car. If the parents don't know much about these churches, they may be willing to let you go and be satisfied. They are accepting of people of all faiths who come together to support each other. I attended a few times with a boyfriend. I liked it well enough...reminded me more of a social gathering and support type group rather than a church so it may be tolerable for you until you reach legal age and can make your own decisions no matter what mom and dad likes. As long as you are under their roof and under age, they know they are responsible for your training whether they are misguided or not they are doing the best they can.
Here's a twist, start praying that their eyes would be opened to really spot the inconsistencies in indoctrination and start thinking for themselves. My non Christian sister did that for me even tho it looked like I'd never come around, but I did, my eyes were opened and I began to make my own spiritual choices and beliefs.
You might have interest in something called the Urantia Book. I've read it and it answered lots of questions the church can not. It includes how we evolved from apes and then later a couple named Adam and Eve were sent to help guide the people who evolved here, Adam and Eve story totally different from bible, and story of heaven, God and all the levels of spiritual beings as never explained in church, a different story of Jesus and his reason for coming to earth, it wasn't to die for our sins, etc...I am sure you will enjoy it whether you believe it or not. heres the link: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
of it includes no longer pretending I believe exactly like you by attending church."
If they were agreeable to you attending a church of your own choosing, then to transition out of the Christian indoctrination, youurch of your own choosing, then to transition you might check out the Universalist churches, Unitarians, and see if any members of such churches would be willing to pick you up if you don't drive yet or have a car. If the parents don't know much about these churches, they may be willing to let you go and be satisfied. They are accepting of people of all faiths who come together to support each other. I attended a few times with a boyfriend. I liked it well enough...reminded me more of a social gathering and support type group rather than a church so it may be tolerable for you until you reach legal age and can make your own decisions no matter what mom and dad likes. As long as you I don't know what type of church background the parents have so their reaction may differ depending on what type of Christian belief they adher to, or why they attend a church.
If the parents attend a church and say they believe in God more because their parents always did and its a family heritage thing and social thing than a true solid belief, chances are they will be understanding and allow you to go your own path. If its a Catholic church, some can be very open minded so it all depends. If on the other hand, the parents are involved in something more like Baptist, Assembly of God, or any other spirit filled, speaking in tongues church...then you're just going to have to face the fact that no matter how you tell them, this will be opening a can of worms so to speak. I used to be with such churches and decided to blindly accept everything I was told, narrow minded thinking, not thinking for myself however later in life, not through influence of any people or society, but thru spiritual influence that came from within me, I have developed my own beliefs which are more pagan, earth based, with a belief in God and Goddess which is also seen in my eyes as Jesus and Holy Spirit.
It could be that you are truly atheist, or it could be that like me, you are more against all the lies, indoctrination, the twisting of original intents in the bible or of Jesus words, sick of the blind beliefs, the man made doctrines, etc... that misrepresent God. It may not be that you don't believe in God but that you don't believe in the God they believe in because I can tell you right now, that God does not exist. Doe a God exist? Is there some higher power? I believe so but only through personal experience.
Experience makes the difference. Theres that saying, "I'll believe it when I see it." For me it has been, "I'll believe it when I experience it." Once upon a time, I did not believe in spirit guides. I had no choice but to believe once I experienced mine showing up and seeing him clearly in my mind as clear as seeing a person with your eyes open.
You know your parents best so it's up to you whether to be subtle and give hints by questionings things and finally telling them or just getting it over it and making the statement, I don't believe in God, I am an atheist.
It might be easier to leave out the word Atheist and say something like,
"I don't believe in the type of God that you and the church believes in. Not sure I can tell you what I believe in but it certainly isn't that. If God does exist, then I want to be able to discover that on my own in my own way, and part of it includes no longer pretending I believe exactly like you by attending church."
If they were agreeable to you attending a church of your own choosing, then to transition out of the Christian indoctrination, youurch of your own choosing, then to transition you might check out the Universalist churches, Unitarians, and see if any members of such churches would be willing to pick you up if you don't drive yet or have a car. If the parents don't know much about these churches, they may be willing to let you go and be satisfied. They are accepting of people of all faiths who come together to support each other. I attended a few times with a boyfriend. I liked it well enough...reminded me more of a social gathering and support type group rather than a church so it may be tolerable for you until you reach legal age and can make your own decisions no matter what mom and dad likes. As long as you are under their roof and under age, they know they are responsible for your training whether they are misguided or not they are doing the best they can.
Here's a twist, start praying that their eyes would be opened to really spot the inconsistencies in indoctrination and start thinking for themselves. My non Christian sister did that for me even tho it looked like I'd never come around, but I did, my eyes were opened and I began to make my own spiritual choices and beliefs.
You might have interest in something called the Urantia Book. I've read it and it answered lots of questions the church can not. It includes how we evolved from apes and then later a couple named Adam and Eve were sent to help guide the people who evolved here, Adam and Eve story totally different from bible, and story of heaven, God and all the levels of spiritual beings as never explained in church, a different story of Jesus and his reason for coming to earth, it wasn't to die for our sins, etc...I am sure you will enjoy it whether you believe it or not. heres the link: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
are under their roof and under age, they know they are responsible for your training whether they are misguided or not they are doing the best they can.
Here's a twist, start praying that their eyes would be opened to really spot the inconsistencies in indoctrination and start thinking for themselves. My non Christian sister did that for me even tho it looked like I'd never come around, but I did, my eyes were opened and I began to make my own spiritual choices and beliefs.
You might have interest in something called the Urantia Book. I've read it and it answered lots of questions the church can not. It includes how we evolved from apes and then later a couple named Adam and Eve were sent to help guide the people who evolved here, Adam and Eve story totally different from bible, and story of heaven, God and all the levels of spiritual beings as never explained in church, a different story of Jesus and his reason for coming to earth, it wasn't to die for our sins, etc...I am sure you will enjoy it whether you believe it or not. heres the link: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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