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Stressed
19/f in the university but living at home. The university that I go to is a university, it isn't a community college and the reason I point that out is because they do have a student center, dorms, and fraternities and sororities, and all of that stuff. I want to explain a little bit about my situation but the bottom line is that I'm SUPER SUPER stressed. I live at home with my mom and my grandparents and I'm telling you that it's an absolute nightmare. I want to cry and I'm just really, really unhappy.
I went to a REALLY prestigious high school. It was a college prepatory school and everyone graduated going to nice universities. My university is really nice, it's just the fact that I'm living at home. Anyway, most of the people I went to high school with went away for college. I was planning on transferring to another school after completing a summer term at my university, but it didn't really work out because that summer I found out that I was adopted. I recently found my biological family and have kept in contact with them also. It wasn't something bad to find out... but I'm just saying. I also fell in love with my school. I started to really like it and everything they offered. I met different people who aren't from Miami... where I live and I actually really love my school. However, I really, really hate Miami.
Ever since I started school, I've had to work... really really hard. My mom does not work and the only income that she gets is the income from the house that she rents. My dad brings me money sometimes... but I feel bad always asking for money. My grandparents own a car dealership... but it's not as if they make that much money. I've had to work for the things that I've wanted and to have money on the side for my own things. But, I'm not complaining about working because I don't mind working. I took a semester off because I really wanted to focus on school and I was taking important classes. I wanted to resume working this semester, so that I wouldn't feel as if I had no money. I'm stressed because with the money I will be making when I'm working, I have money for absolutely nothing.
I do not have a car. My mom and I were sharing a car and she had to take me off the policy because it was too expensive. I cannot rent my own apartment because any money I would be making wouldn't cover an apartment. If I did have my own apartment, I would not be able to pay a phone bill or any insurance on a car. I'm really stressed because no matter what, I know I can't handle a full time job. School is a priority and I see more and more when I'm applying to jobs that a college degree is needed. I also cannot take part time classes because I am on scholarship and I need to be a full time student to maintain it. I am extremely stressed and sometimes I feel that I shouldn't be going through these financial troubles because I'm a student and because I'm living at home.
I wonder sometimes if I made a big mistake staying home for college because if I were away, I wouldn't feel all of this. Maybe my parents would have even gotten me a car. In Miami, everyone needs a car. You really can't do anything without a car. My mom just picks me up and drops me off everywhere, even parties and dates!!! It's a nightmare! And it's not as if I'm not working and I'm a brat. I've been working since I was sixteen and working lots of hard hours since I started college.
There has to be something I can do to feel less stressed and be able to feel that independence that i need at my age... even if I am a student and living at home.
I hope you guys can help me and offer me any advice. It would be so helpful.
Thanks. xoxo
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Do you go to the University of Miami? How far do you live from school? Have you considered taking the metro rail/tri-rail to the places you need to go to? Freshman students are not allowed to have cars so I do not have one either but I get by by using the metro and other forms of transportation like getting rides from friends and/or classmates. Where does all the money you make from working go to? You could start saving in order to eventually get a car. I know lots of people that have gotten one for cheap... if your parents would have gotten you a car if you went away why can't they help you get one now? Maybe you should talk to them? Good Luck, and if you do go to UM, maybe I'll see you around one day! =)
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If you want you can apply for housing at your college. If you are as smart as I think you are you could apply for scholarships, their just not for 12th graders. You can not reach your full potential until you get out of that situation.
LILLIAN
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