Question Posted Wednesday September 22 2010, 6:26 pm
Well school just started. Lately I have been really tired, I have also been avoiding my friends a lot. My mom keeps thinking I'm mad. I feel less energetic than I used to be, The girl I like doesn't seem to like me. I have been Extra Lazy, I'm M/15. I'm also losing interest in sports & video games, I feel dead & lonely, my parents think I'm dumb and think I don't know what goes on when I really do. I've NEVER felt this blank. I feel like there's no point in anything. I feel like I'm impatiently waiting for something. I feel as if my dreams will never come true. I'm usually never like this, but the past few weeks I just haven't felt the same about things. I wish I can start a new life & forget everything & everyone I know. I just don't know. I would never do it or wish for it, but I like to wonder what would happen if I died & what It would be like. IDK...
familyfirst answered Thursday September 23 2010, 9:15 am: I think you have two things going on. The first thing is depression. This is completely normal but you do NOT have to suffer. There are interventions for depression such as medications, support groups, or lifestyle changes.
There's a website that can help explain depression and how to cope with it.
But ALWAYS inform mom and dad. You stated that your parents think your dumb. You feel this way because lots of teens feel their parents just "don't get them". The truth that you need to remember is that your parents love you more than life itself and would do anything to help you feel better. Trust me. Im a parent. Tell mom and dad you think you may be depressed and you would like to seek help. If you are suffering they will see it in your eyes and want to be there for you.
The second thing I think I am reading from your history is you are growing up. You are a maturing teen boy. Symptoms of a maturing teen are anger, loneliness, depression, and not enjoying the things you used to enjoy anymore. You know why? Because you aren't that person anymore. You are growing up.
It can be confusing when you no longer want to play your favorite video game or you cant be bothered riding your skateboard anymore. Then dont. Maybe you've grown out of it. Maybe your interests have changed. Think about something that might give you a spark of energy. Gardening, animals, writing, sports, building something, volunteering somewhere, singing, painting... anything. Think about anything on earth that sparks an interest. Maybe you should check it out! You are at a developmental stage right now where you are becoming a man but aren't quite there. it's a tough place to be. Explore this feeling. It may end up leading to a decision about what you want to do with your life.
The girl you like doesn't seem to like you? Then either settle for being friends with her or don't worry about it. There are tons of girls out there and if one doesn't like you... well... you can't win them all but the ones you cant win aren't worth the time of day anyway. Hang on until one that is deserving of you comes around. Believe me... just because a girl is pretty and catches your eye does NOT make her worth pursuing.
So. First thing is approach mom and dad about how you are feeling. Suggestion: It is much easier to talk if you aren't making eye contact. Talk in the car when you can look out the window or some similar situation. Just say "hey mom... i dont feel good. I think i'm depressed. not like sad but like I may actually need a doctor". Your desire to get help will get her attention. She'll listen. Once you get that taken care of- reevaluate your life and if you dont like your video games anymore... then do what you DO like!!!
Most of all- just remember you are norrmal. You are important, i guarantee it! You are in a very difficult developmental stage right now but it DOES get better. Hang in there. NO ONE WILL BE BETTER OFF IF YOU ARENT AROUND. You really want to get people talking then do some super awesome things.
karenR answered Thursday September 23 2010, 7:21 am: Sounds like you are depressed. Its not at all uncommon for teens to experience bouts of depression. You have a lot of life changes going on in your life in a big hurry. Puberty, girl/boyfriends, school grades & peer pressure, learning to drive, etc. A very busy time of life.
It also sounds like there may possibly be something going on at home that has you upset? "my parents think I'm dumb and think I don't know what goes on when I really do." If that is the case, get whatever you know is going on out in the open. It may help.
Regardless, depression is not a fun thing to experience. Most teens will get over it in a few weeks. If you don't, then you need to tell your parents you feel depressed and need to see a doctor. ESPECIALLY if you are having thoughts of suicide or death. Medication will help if you are having symptoms that just won't go away. [ karenR's advice column | Ask karenR A Question ]
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