Member Since: November 15, 2011
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Last Update: November 22, 2011
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Im 20/male and Im a virgin. I have had 4 girlfriends. My first one was when I was 16 and she was abstinent, we broke up because she said she liked another guy. My second one I met irl but she moved away so we were long distance and never were able to be together in real life, we broke up because the distance was too hard even though we were deeply in love. My third one was a abstinent as well, but she would grind on me alot and I would finger her, we broke up because her parents didnt like that I wasnt white. My fourth gf would grind on me alot and I would go down on her and finger her and gave her hundreds of orgasms(literally), but she said she wanted to wait till college to have sex, and she chose to go to college across country after dating me for a year. I havent even talked to a girl in over a year, nevermind touched one. My sex drive is now insanely low for a young male, and I maybe think about it once or twice a day and only masturbate once a week probably. I dont know how to get out of this current predicament... (link)
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I’m going to be real blunt with you because, I have seen this to many times. I bet you are a really nice guy and truly respect whoever you are dating. The 16 year old, fucked that other guy, the long distance girl…hey you tried, that college girl was on some B.S. and is now getting her back beat out on a regular basis, and hey parents are going to be parents and some people are still ignorant to this day.
The problem is you, these females are getting what they need from you without having to give back anything in return, and its because YOU allow it. Sex is a mutual thing and a lot of people forget that. If you give her oral, then she needs to return the favor, if you finger her she needs to jack you off. And if they want to pull some of that I’m not good at it or do a bad job after the third or fourth time, they are hoping that you just say forget about it. When this happens you need not give them any more sexual favors and move on to the next one.
I think you need to be a little more aggressive and assertive, there is nothing wrong with being a nice guy but you do have to draw a line and let women know what you will and will not stand for, because they only respect power and if they can run over you and get away with murder they will or in your case bust several nuts and not have to really worry about getting you off……they will and as you can see they have.
1. Make yourself presentable at all times, haircut, clean shirt, matching, etc…..
2. Start a conversation with some of the prettiest girls you can find, most of them are insecure any way. Just general conversation, don’t make it weird. A simple hi or hello or you have beautiful eyes. Oh and make them laugh, as long as she laughs and it’s a genuine laugh you got her attention. Remember your time is valuable so don’t give it to her all at once…..make them miss your company.
3. Say what you mean and stand by it
4. If the conversation about sex comes up be very clear about what you want or expect and don’t waver from what you want.
5. I have a lot more to say but im tired of typing now, if you want more tips just let me know.
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Hi everyone! I dread giving gifts, because I never have an idea of what to give! My boyfriend and I have been together for a year on the 20th of November; (which is also my birthday) and I have no idea what to give him! I'm stressing so bad. He lives with me & my parents; so I can't really surprise him.
He really needs underwear, socks, basketball shorts, and such; but I feel like that so boring; Anyone have an ideas? I want something he will like or maybe even enjoy;
**Sex is out of the question, since we live at my parents house! haha.
Thank you in advance. (link)
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Well you should know what he likes by now. Think back to previous conversations you have had with him, or think about what caught his attention when you all were out. what makes his face light up or puts him in a really good mood. What is something that he keeps talking about over and over again. Remember this, when giving a gift think about what they want, NOT WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO HAVE OR WHAT YOU THINK THEY NEED.
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I'm a 17 year old girl from Australia who planned on going on a schoolies trip with a few friends a while ago. I paid half of my share but afterwards decided to pull out because I was going to go overseas with my family instead. Because of my last minute decision, I was content with letting them keep the money.
However, after a series of events, the family trip got cancelled. One of the friends (who I'll call Girl A) suggested that I go with them. So I asked the rest of the group, who were hesitant and frustrated with all my sudden change of attitudes and because they had already planned the rest of the trip (transportation, budget, things to bring etc.). I agreed to the list of things they set me to bring and even offered to get my own transportation (since there's no more room in the cars because of their luggage) which will cost me a lot of money.
I know it was wrong of me to mess up their plans but I did pay for it and most of them weren't willing to give me back my money at this point.
Because of all this, they're all now frustrated with me and I'm afraid that I'll be nothing but a burden the whole trip. Girl A is the only one who isn't upset with me and said that she'll stay by my side, but I don't want to hold her back from having fun with the rest of the group.
Now I'm trying to mend friendships with the rest of the group, but they're still reluctant to forgive me. I genuinely want to go especially since my best friend Girl A wants me come, but I'm afraid I'll be excluded from the rest of the group most of the time.
If I decide not to go then I thought that I'll try to negotiate with them to get my money back after the trip because money is a bit tight with them at the moment (which I think is why they didn't want to pay me back before).
Basically, I don't want to go if my 'so-called friends' don't even want me there. I have to make a final decision within the next 24 hours. Should I stay or should I go? Is it worth it? (link)
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I would get them all together and just confront the elephant in the room (the big issue). Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. Here are the facts: you gave them some of the money but decided not to go but you let them keep your money which really helped them out. Due to reason beyond your control you couldn’t go on the family trip and wanted to resume the trip with them. This isn’t being wishy washy or anything like that, it’s just what happened. Plus considering the fact that you are willing to get your own transportation is even more money out of your pocket. Unfortunately you probably won’t be getting any money back because you told them in the beginning that it was ok for them to keep it, but in my opinion if they were your real friends they would be happy to have you and would try and find a way to make it work.
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Please don't judge...and if you must, please refrain from the unsavory words...we don't use these for men and we shouldn't for women.
I have been sleeping with and dating this man, let's call him Daniel, for about two months. On repeated occasion, I asked if he wanted to be together. He said he was only seeing me but he didn't want a serious relationship because he just got out a long term relationship with his first love. He wanted me to only see him but he didn't want us to be in a real boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. He is very sweet—always compliments both my intellect and behavior—and is quite thoughtful with what he says he loves about me. He never sounds generic. He always took me out on dates, was proud for men to see me with him, wanted me to hold his hand in front of other men, but the relationship was mostly sexual other than that. I began to feel like i was there as a sex partner and trophy. Once I defined this, it was okay to me, and I continued to see other men. (just go on dates and kiss mind you, I prefer, for safer sex, to keep sex partner numbers low) I enjoy being intimate with him--it's always a fun time!
One day, when it was about one month after knowing him, his best friend, let's call him Robert, was over. We all slept together. I have never felt guilty about this or like a harlot. I have wanted to experiment for some time coming from an abusive previous relationship that lasted 6 years (and ended 6 months ago) who was my first partner ever, my sexual side and spirit were quite stifled. These two men, Daniel and Robert, made me feel sexy and powerful during the whole experience of our little session. I felt very in control of it, and very sexy and womanly.
However, recently, a month later after the ménage a trios, I became increasingly frustrated with Daniel. I started to want him to progress things, and he was happy taking me out to expensive places and sleeping together. I continued because I enjoyed the physical, but I have still dated others while seeing him. Plus, I have always had a feeling he hadn't been completely honest with me, and was seeing others too. However, being safe, I only have slept with him (and the one time in our menage a trois with his best friend Robert) since i met him. Well, a few weeks ago, Robert, Daniel's best friend called. He said we should talk as friends. I knew this wasn't the case because after the three of us had had our intimate encounter together the previous month, the times when Robert would come just to visit, it always felt like he was jealous and that we had more in common when we all talked, like Robert and I were connecting more intellectually.
Well, on our "friend date" Robert confessed that he had feelings for me, and wanted to “treat me better than Daniel.” He said that Daniel told him about all of our intimate encounters but never called me a girlfriend, so why should I feel any loyalty to him. He never came out and said it but when I asked he basically agreed that “Daniel has “many reasons” not to feel bad—that he is seeing other women. I agreed with him but still felt hesitant because they have been friends for son long.. He said that Daniel has done this kind of thing to him before and its ok. During the date, right away, he introduced me to all of his close friends on our first “date.” It was strange because the previous week I complained to Daniel that he never introduced me to close friends—only Robert and that he only wanted random men to see me with him as a trophy. On the date, Robert took me out to a few places--the last place we went to was one I always go to and have always felt a spiritual connection to--I never told Robert or daniel this ever--it was strange that Robert seemed to really know what I would like more than Daniel. Robert confessed he eventually "wanted me all to himself" and we kissed passionately outside. The kiss felt romantic with Robert—with Daniel it always feels lustful. We ended up sleeping together and it felt more like making love. While we were doing it, he said that he wanted just me to himself, and he said it after, too. At the end, Robert confessed he stole Daniel's phone when Daniel was out of the room the week after the had the ménage a trois but he was afraid to call me until now. He said I could continue to see Daniel so it wouldn't look suspicious but eventually let him down easy so then later on, Robert could reveal to Daniel that he and I were seeing each other.
The thing is, since this has happened, Daniel has been paying much more attention to me. He has been saying he wants more than just physical and he is excited to see me more often. Robert has been also contacting me since then. He has been saying he is also eager to see me again and has another date planned he know I will love. The question is, What should I do? (link)
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You need to disappear for a while, I know it sounds strange but do it. The one who continues to contact you afterward is the one who really wants to be with you. This could very well be a sick joke, think about it, they are both best friends and have both slept with you both together and separately. You really need to be careful.
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So, about two months ago I moved into a house with two roommates. The one roommate was very respectful, cute and instantly we had this connection. We spent the two months together whenever we could. He would poke or wave to me in the hall at school, he would bug me after school, we would watch movies every night together and we laughed so hard sometimes that we cried. Basically we had a good time whenever we were together. They ended up being the best two months of my life. He even started hugging me goodnight every night. Our neighbour, who was one of my friends even thought we were going to get married! I was a bit shocked when he told me she said this but when he said it, he kind of laughed it off and then it almost seemed as if he wished it was true...
So after the two months when his school time was up, he just packed up and left. He told me that he would contact me eventually and that we would have to get together and ride in eachothers vehicles - we are both classic car junkies lol. He wants to be a mechanic, which I don't mind at all. I have dated guys before, but nothings felt like this with a guy. He really cares about what he does/who he's with and respects everyone around him. You might ask why I didn't date him, well the truth is, I was afraid to make a move on someone who I knew was going to leave.. stupid of me? Maybe. I feel like I need to talk to him again. I have his cell, but he lives 8hrs away and doesn't like texting. I would have to call, plus I wouldn't know what to say or how I would be able to see him again. I feel like I should maybe wait for him to contact me... If you know how I feel, please help! Thanks! :p (link)
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Keep it light, but keep in touch, you don’t want to come off like a stalker. Use your passion for cars to your advantage, trust if you can ramble off engine models and know which transmission is better, he will melt in your hands. Trust guys never forget the girl who can beat them at video games or knows her cars. And actually make plans to spend some time together but you gotta find a way to make it seem like his idea….lol
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 13 months. I feel so happy when I am with him and he tells me that he feels equally happy. I feel that we have a very healthy and faithful relationship. We are intimate and romantic and it's a beautiful relationship.
I have this feeling where I don't ever want to move on and I just want to stay with him forever. He makes me that happy. and I completely love who I am when I am with him. I want to feel that way forever.
Although I am unsure what the future holds, if I had to pick anyone i'd want to share my life with it would be him.. wanna know why? because i know that if he ended up with me, he would be safe forever. I would protect him. I would not let anything happen to him. Then I would for sure know that he will be okay.. But thinking that he could possibly end up with someone that's not me, is a scary thought for me. It's actually really scary because then I wouldn't be so sure how safe he is, how well he's treated, and how much he gets. Because my darling, to me, deserves everything right. All I want him to be in this world is happy. He's walked me through numerous stages of my life, and I just want him to walk me through more.
That being said, I wonder if he feels the same way about me. I want him to want to be with me forever because i want to be with him forever. But how do i get him to say it if he thinks it? I just want to see if he feels the same way I do. A lot of guys like to hide their sensitive feelings and occasionally, he will come out and say his true feelings, but can you please give me advice on what i can do or say to get his true feelings out of him. I really want to know.. Like what can I do for my boyfriend to get him to reveal everything he's feeling about me? Should I do something emotional? Please help me!!!
THANK YOU:)
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If its as good as you say it is then I wouldn’t push him to much, guys usually act the way we feel, meaning our actions will express our true feelings, because most guys really suck when it comes to words and often times trying to explains our feeling back fires and we are sitting there with the dumb guy look trying to figure out what we said wrong. Take your relationship for what it is, good and healthy. From the sounds of it your more than happy and he like making you happy so like I said just watch his actions and not his mouth.
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