listen, i can't tell her that this guy is ruining our friendship... because he's not! he's just like all she can ever talk about; i think she is just being very selfish. i think i should just live on and when she gets over him, she gets over him. but this has happened so many times before. any other advice? -- by the way, i have a question, if i wanna rate advice, whenever i click 5 for ANYONE, it always never goes through! i really wanna give u a 5, but like it's not working! help? ♥
i know that you said shes not ruining your friendship, and your probably right. but whenever a girl friend (best friend) ignores you to be with a guy, it is kinda selfish. and like you said, i would just wait until this girl gets over the guy, and then she will need a shoulder to lean on...
and i dont really know about the rating thing.
sorry!
hope i helped!!
-Sarah
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.:: dear sarah ::. i really need your help. my friend is like obsessed with this guy and she can never stop talking about him and she's being ES OH selfish! it's like wtf loser i don't care! what about me? i tried telling her to ask him out but he's all she ever thinks about. and i'm really having a rough time in my life. like, everytime i come online, "OMG!! [ MY NAME HERE ] HE'S ONLINE!! WHAT DO I DO" and i just sign off most of the time because like, hello? no greeting? no asking what's up? i hate it so much. ♥
okay, this is a when people call other people crazy. omg! this girl sounds like she is overly obsessive and that is not good for yalls friendship. even though you have already tried talking to her, you should try it agina, and this time dont tell her what she wants to hear, but tell her what she needs to hear. if you tell her that her relationship with this guy is ruining your friendship then maybe she'll lighten up a little bit. and think about this...one the guys is gone or if he has another girlfriend, then this girl is going to be relying on you to be nice to her. and if you do truley like her as a friend, then i wouldnt let this one boy problem ruin your friendship.
write back with results.
hope i helped
-sarah
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My friend is talking about me behind my back and when were together all he/she does is tlak about other people and gossip. I try to stop him/her but he/he won't stop. He/she thinks i am a freak for not doing it with him/her. What do i do?
thanks
okay well, if this friend really is doing this then she isnt a true friend. if all he/she wants to do with you is gossip and spread rumors, then its your descision to take the risk of people getting mad at YOU. you should confront her/him and tell her what you are thinking about her/him doing this. write back with results.
hope i helped
-Sarah
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omg thnk u soooooooooo much
and i was in the CHAP cabin w/ u!
no prob
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Well i have this friend,and ahe gets ALL they guys! i admit i am sort of jealous. but i mean shes my best friend so i should be happy for her right? I just want at least one boyfriend!!! I need ur help my lovely CHAPERALL!
you shuld not be jealous of this friend because your time will come too. all of the boys will like you and YOUR friends will feel the same way. you wouldnt want them to be mad or jealous so just let it pass because its not going to stay like this forever...
and what do you mean by CHAPERALL??
-Sarah
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its not that shes mean to me...its that she basically ignores me unless she has no one to talk to. so shes basically ditched me for more popular friends and only talks to me when, i guess, she doesn't wants to be seen w/o n e one to talk to
well if she does that, then she seems like a really low friend to be using you as a backup. and if this happend repeadily then i wouldnt bother giving her a second chance. it seems that she has been really mean to you and you deserve much better then a blow off frienship.
-Sarah
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hey! well one of my really good friends last year has totally ditched me this year for a more popular crowd. she never even talks to me unless she is all by herself and wants to look, i guess, social. what do i do? do i leave her since she basically left me??
well, if she is one of your really good friends, then i would give her a second chance, but if she is being really mean to you and you dont feel like she deserves one then dont give that oppurtunity. i dont really know how good of friends you are so i cant tell you what to do, but just follow your heart on what you think is right, and only give her a secon chance if she actually starts being nice to you again.
-Sarah
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My boyfriend is coming on too strong. He scares me a lot! He is always wanting to make out with me and feel my boobs. I am uncomfortable with it because i had a tramatic experience when i was 8. what should i tell him? i realllllllyyyyy love him but i cant go on living like this.
troubled in texas
ahhh ok that is something that is way to serious for a little advice column like this. you need to tell someone.
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hello there- i am sooo annoyed of this person who is OBSESEED with her bf! she like has no time for me ne more and shows off around him ... im rly annoyed then she like acts liek a hypocrite ALL THE TIME!
wut should i do??
* some 1
first, you should talk to this person (your friend) and tell her the way that you and keep in mind that friends always!!! last longer then boyfriends, so when she and her boyfriend eventually split then she will need a friend again so you need to be there for that friend, and she probably really likes this bf so just let her have her fun now and when she is done then things will be back to normall. just be patient.
-Sarah
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If your girlfriend just broke up with you and one week later tries to get back together with you, would you take her back.
Im 12 years old and I am a male
if you really loved this person then you would accept the appollogy and get back together. but if your relationship was just to say you had a girlfriend, i wouldnt bother because this girl is probably just looking for a reason to have a boyfriend. so you either love her and trust her to love you for being yourself. or you decline the question. sorry, but i cant answer for you.
write back with results.
-Sarah
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my friend has been really wierd lately. She has been saing she hates me but then she like hangs out with me and denies it all. I've heard this from EVERYBODY and i want to know if she's really my friend. Please help me
-confused
if you really wnat to know if she is your friend, then you should ask her. and even if she denys it, you should keep asking her if things keep going on between the two of you.
she is just probably going through a stage right now where she wants people to really like her. so she denys your friendship so you will try harder to be nicer.
she will eventually get over it but it might take time, so be petient
send back results.
-Sarah
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so theres this guyy...he knows i like him and he used to like me but then now all of a sudden he likes another girl ALSO! grrr trust me ive tried to get him off my mind but i cant...i rly like him...help!
anonymous
how do you know that he likes this other girl? and if he used to like you then you are probably still in the back of his head. you have to show this guy that you really like him. and maybe even tell him to his face. and you need to not be worrying about this other girl and be confident in yourself. because if you are then you can achive anything and get anything you want. if this other girl doesnt like you that much, then you need to become friends with her so that she will not tell this guy bad things about you to turn him off from you and onto her. write back with results.
-Sarah
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thanks so much for your advice!! now my friend and i never fight over any guy cause we talk about it before we get mad at each other. and it really works cause we never get mad anymore.
thanks again.
your welcome. glad i could help
-Sarah
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so i have this freind and ever since i have been going out with this guy she has been werid and kind of mean. i dont want this girl mad at me anymore because she is one of my really good freinds. i like this guy alot but i want my freind back. wat should i do?
well, friends will last longer then boyfriends, so i would first concentrate on getting your friend to like your boyfriend better. tell her all of the good things about this guy and then try to pursuade her that he is good.
she is probably just being mean because she is jealous. even if she already has a boyfriend, maybe sh elikes your better and likes the way he treats you. consult this friend about the way you feel and then apologize for anything that you could of done to make her mad. apolagies usually make things better. hopefully this will work.
write back with results.
-sarah
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ok-so i have this friend and she OBSESSES about people from other schools she like used to be my bff but now i dont think i'm cool enough or something. she completely ignores me sometimes just to hang out with popular kids from other schools....all she cares about is being popular and she even obsesses over it in her pro and xanga n' stuff and it REALLY hurts my feelings! she doesn't care about me anymore, ever since becoming cool was so important to her.what should i do?
p.s. sorry its so long...
whoever this friend is, you should talk to her. maybe she isnt just becoming friends with the other person to become popular. maybe, since yall seem like you have been friends for a while, just needed a break and wanted to find someone to hang out with. she will eventually become your friend again once she feels that she has taken time to start another friendship with someone that she wanted to get to know a little better. dont stress over it though because from what it looks like, she used to like you and so she knows really good things about you. it will take time but yall will be friends again. trust me. ask back if you have more questions.
-Sarah
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My friend likes this guy but he doesn't like her back. What should I do about my friend, should i tell her?
you should first ask this friend if she is absolutley sure that she is like in lovveeee with this guy. and if she is, then you should ask the guy if he likes her back. chances are he will probably say no since you said that in the question, so i would tell the friend that this guy probably isnt right for her and to look for someone else. this will probably calm her down. but if that doesnt work, you just need to tell her strait up that he doesnt like her. she will probably be crushe fore about a day or two. and then youll see that she will get over it quickly once she finds another guy.
-Sarah
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wut do i do about her she's getting on my last nerve she thinks were like best friends when i told her i hated her!!! and that i think she's a bitch!! wut do I do
tell her again!!! she probably idols you and that isnt always a good thing. like you said. she follows you around and sticks with you no matter what. that can be good but in this case it is really annoying. you should tell her to stop bothering you and but you shouldnt be rude about it. and if that doesnt work...you should just tell her strait up.
ask back if it doesnt work.
-Sarah
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i comment my friend a lot and my brother doesnt comment my freind that much-- my friend ALWAYS comments my bro and never looks at my xanga-- either my friend hates me or something else----- advice plz?
anonnomous
if someone doesnt look at your xanga, its not the end of the world. and if this person is really being mean to you then you should consult him/her. maybe she/he is your best friend even though she/he didnt comment. that is probably the case so dont worry about it that much. but if she/he does start being mean to you then i would consider talking to him/her again.
-Sarah
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my friend is always being sooooo mean to me!! she always ditches me and tells me that im stupid. its getting soooo annoying what should i do?
-stupid
for one thing, your not stupid and this friend is probably just jealous. i would talk to her about it and if she continues doing it then she is not a good friend. just be yourself and if she doesnt like it then thats her fault.
-Sarah
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