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Okay, so I’ve kinda lied about my sexual experience. Not just to one person, but to everyone I know. When I was 14, some of my friends started losing their virginity. And I didn’t want to be the odd one out, so there was this guy that they knew I liked, and he was moving. So I told them (untruthfully) that I had sex with him the night before he left. They didn’t have his number or anything so I knew they wouldn’t ask him. Anyway, so all my friends thought I wasn’t a virgin anymore. And whenever people would ask me I’d always say I wasn’t, usually because I was with my friends.
Now I’m 17 and I’m still a virgin. I’ve just never had a boyfriend that I was serious enough with to have sex with him. Well now, I’m really serious with my boyfriend and I’m totally into him, and given the chance I would definitely have sex with him. We’ve come very close a couple times, but I was drunk so he wouldn’t go through with it. The problem is he thinks I’m not a virgin, but I am.
I’m afraid that I’m not gonna know what to do when the time comes that we actually do have sex. I mean, if he knew it was my first time, I wouldn’t be so worried, but he’s probably gonna expect that I know what I’m doing, and he’s not a virgin so he’s gonna know.
I don’t want him or anyone else to know that I lied about it, so I need to find a way to make it work so that he doesn’t know I’m a virgin. I know I might bleed and that’ll give it away, but if he says anything about that then I know I’ll just say something like he’s bigger than the last guy I had sex with. So anyway my questions are: (they may be dumb but bear with me)
1. What should I do with my hands while he’s actually thrusting? Like what’s gonna be the hottest for him?
2. Should I kiss him during?
3. Should I give him a blowjob first?
4. How do I subtly let him know that I want him to lead? (most important) Because if he’s leading, that’ll probably take the pressure off me a little bit.
5. I’ve heard that sometimes the guy doesn’t fit…how do I make sure that doesn’t happen to me?
Please don’t give me any of that lecture “if you’re not ready…” stuff. I’ve been ready for a long time I just haven’t had the right guy.
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I know you don't want to hear this answer but you obviously value your virginity to wait for the right guy and if you like him and trust him that much you should just tell him the truth.
But it's your decision and if you want to keep up the lie heres the secret every one is different, when you kiss where do you put your hands, just where it's comfortable right and you will have seen other people kiss in other ways, it's just the same.
If he "doesn't fit" you are going to be one of the very few people it's happened to so congratulations at finding that guy. But it happens to some people at the begining of sex if you rush in to fast and aren't turned on enough, if you involve a little foreplay i really doubt that would happen.
Just do what you feel like theres no rules and your lucky being the girl is a major advantage if you dont take the lead he will, just make sure when you get to the condom stage he is on top, so when he sits up to put it on lie down on your back, works a treat. a few tips if your trying to kiss but its kind of akward because of the possition kiss his neck and shoulders. don't try and turn him on any more while hes thrusting just put your arms around him and enjoy, it will be hot enough for him already. goodluck.
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My girl friend recently broke up with me...... i do not want to live any more..... i want to end my life....... she was all i had... she loves me still i know she does... her mom just passed away and she said she needs to be alone....... every day i cry all day. its the only thing i think about...... im 24 and i have never been hurt this bad in my life.so i think i am going to kill my self or badyly injure my self so she will stay with me in the hospital....... i am prescribed methadone, i take 100 mgs a day..... to day i am thinking about taking 700 mgs... dont you think that wil kill me in a quiet way.. if it doesnot kill me i am screwed becausei wont have my medicine and ill be even worse off and suffer withdrawl.. like i said i am prescribed methadone, i am the farthest thing from a drug addict ..... ive been sober for 2 years and this is the first time i have had to deal with my problems with out the use of drugs.. i want to die.. another option i am considering is taking a jog at night wearing all black and just jump in front of a car... i figure more than likely this will not kill me and it will look like an accident according to every one else... i know then my girl will stay by my side.. i am also tempting driving a honda civic into a wall or tree going at least 70 miles an hour.. i want to die, but i dont want to hurt my mom,, if she was not in the picture i would have done it already... so please tell me what you think and dont say shit like o go get help....... dont kill your self... god wont accept you in the after life... thats bull shit.. god will forgive me... i just can not go on with out this girl. please reply quickly.. (link)
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I was thinking the same the other night, sometimes you realise life is shit and suicide seems like the only answer, always in the back of my head I would like to be gone but I have to get on with it because of my dad, you see I know that would destroy him as I'm sure it would your mom. When you realise it's not a question of do you want to live or not, just that you have to, you get on with your life enjoy the ups and don't care about the downs, nothing can hurt you because nothing matters. And after a while you get used to it your life carrys on and having had that thought of leaving makes you that little bit stronger because you are living for the people you love and that love you, and though they will never know what you have gone through for them, you've given them an amazing gift, you have kept them away from that pain and anger and devistation. As for the girl she if she needs time give her it. the last thing she needs after lossing her mom is worrying about you, write her a letter or send a message and tell her you will be there whenever and if ever she needs you and keep your distance until she is able to decide what she thinks. i hope this helps.
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