Member Since: September 22, 2005
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Last Update: September 24, 2005
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I'm going out with this guy and we been together 11months this month..but i talk to this guy and i really like him but i love my boyfriend ...me and my boyfriend always fight about stupid stuff ..and everytime we fight i call the other guy and makes me feel better...i think about him all the time..i wanna get back with him cause i think he can make me more happy..but i dont wanna break up with my boyfriend..i just wish i can go out with both of them..but thats wrong and sick lol.. (link)
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I don't know how old you are, but i'm guessing teens, maybe early 20's. It really doesn't matter. I never understand why people always think you have to go out with one person. You can go out and have fun with as many guys as it takes for you to find the right one. You can go out on dates and spend time with as many people as you want, just don't commit to one person. When you feel that you are with the right one, thats when you make the decision to commit. You are too young to be tied down to one guy. Tell each guy that you don't want to be in a committed relationship right now, but you still would like to go out. If they don't like it, then you have to make a decision to not deal with either of them or commit to one of them.
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Ok, so this guy that I am in love with and yes I am positive it is love, well he is being a total jerk about it. He doesn't want to open up and share emotions, he never wants to be around me anymore, he has girls as friends, but tries to like hint that they are more... I'm not sure what he problem is, he has said "I love you too" or "I love you" to me before but lately we have been bickering because of stress on both parts and its just dramatic and we both hate it... I try to tell him how I feel, but he thinks that its stupid infatuation and virgin attachment (he was my first). I think else wise because of the way I am... its hard to express in words how it is. He makes me heart flutter fast but slow, Im thinking nonstop about him, I've stuck up for him with friends and family... Ive battled my best friend over him and now no longer am talking to her. Im starting to think he is not worth it, but I cant fight the feeling of how much I care for him. It keeps bringing me back to him. What should I do?? Just forget him and move on? Crack down and be a hardbutt and make him open up? Oh and forgot to mention, he is moving on Saturday, 3 1/2 hours away... my mother knows this and says its a challenge but one we can tackle if I love him.. so she is with me on this. Frankly my whole family is, they adore him. I'll rate high!!! I'm desperate for help and please I want some help from people with at least some expierence in this.. (link)
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I have been in the same shoes as you before. It's okay to love somebody and go through hard times with somebody, if they want you in return. You can't tackle the challenge of being with somebody just because YOU love him, he as to be willing to work at the relationship also. It's easy to say when you're not in the situation, but don't force yourself on him. A little nudging is okay, but when it gets to the point where you are the only one showing feelings, you have to let it go. I was in love with somebody before and he just didn't love me the same way. You know when it's the right person, because you won't have to work at trying to get him to open up. He'll just do it.
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