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Alright. Im 15. And I do know that right now is really early to start having sex. or whatever. But i feel really pressured. Everyone had girlfriends or boyfriends. And Im like the odd one out. And I feel like, whenever I do have a boyfriend, and I do refuse to have sex, they might breakup with me. Because right now is so sex realated. Everything is about sex. And more sex. Or "head".. I dont know. So Im thinking what is the worse thing that can happen if I do decide to have sex right now. I will just be up to date. And If i use a condom. Everything will be ok..??
And just so you know. Im not the one just to go find some dude and have sex with him. I will go through the regular process or whatever. and like wait like 3 months to start..but im still really iffy about the situation.??
I dont know. I just feel out. (link)
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You're right, everything nowadays IS about sex. We live in a very sex-saturated world. It's very hard not to feel the pressure to have sex when it seems everyone else is. I'm sure that you want to see what the big fuss is all about. Believe it or not though, not everyone is having sex. A lot more people claim to be having sex than actually are having sex - especially at your age people tend to exaggerate their sexual experience.
Now I'm not going to tell you what to do, but consider this: a couple of years from now you meet the guy of your dreams. You end up in a relationship with him for a prolonged period of time and everything feels right. It comes to the point in your relationship when you're both ready for sex. Would you regret the fact you lost it before you met him because you felt pressured to do it? Will you have wish you had waited for him (i.e. someone special) ? Ask yourselves these questions. Many people regret having sex at a young age because they were pressured and weren't ready for it. That, and it wasn't "meaningful"
Ultimately, it's up to you, only you can make this choice. Please do be careful (and safe about it) and make sure you don't do anything you will potentially regret. You only lose your virginity once afterall. Do it when it feels right to you regardless of what everyone else around you [appears!] to be doing.
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Have you ever gone out with someone (boyfriend/girlfriend wise) just for the hell of it? I know a lot of people who simply go out with people even though they don't like them; they just like the idea of being liked.
Is this common?
It seems so weird and pointless to me.
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It is very common. A lot of people when they are younger get into relationships just for "the hell of it" Think about it: when you're in a relationship with someone, their attention is focused on you. People like the idea of being someone's and having someone. It's sad that some people are so insecure that they can only get some self-confidence by being in a relationship with someone. Of course though, it's much worse for the person on the receiving end that someone is only going out with them for the attention they give them!
A similar thing is when people find out someone has a crush on them and they don't like them back. Now of course, the natural and correct thing to do would be to tell them you're not interested. However it's very common for people to let this person think they are or might be interested so they'll keep liking them, because they like the idea of being liked and they like the attention they receive off the person.
Either way, someone gets hurt eventually. It's much more rewarding and meaningful to be in a relationship with someone you truly care about, and who cares about you.
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