Member Since: March 29, 2011
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Last Update: March 29, 2011
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I am married in my mid-20s and have been with this person for 6 years. I love them with every breath i take. However in the past year, this person started an emotional relationship with someone else and almost left me. a couple months later he became obessed with a web cam girl and was making plans to meet her. and in november he posted a add for sex on craigslist. I thought i was over all that crap but a month ago i kissed a friend. I realized that i was no inlove with my husband anymore. Our sexaul relationship is gone. it is like living with my best friend. to make thigns worse, this person i kissed i really developed intense feelings for. I took action on these feelings and now im very confused. i am afraid i have fallen for him. I dont know what to do. I told my husband i made out with this person, but i didnt say anything about my feelings. I feel like i want to run away. I dont want to be tied to anyone, even this other man. Id like to keep them both in my life but not in a relationship. i want to be able to figure out my self. I am a good person and i have never cheated on anyone before. This whole thing has confused me soo much. my friends yell at me and tell me to stop talk to this other man, but i cant. My feelings run deep with him. I am not sure what to do and i feel so depressed and guilty (link)
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"the heart wants what the heart wants" is often used to excuse impulsive behavior and to avoid taking responsibility for your actions. Your intense feelings for this other person might be a reflection of the lack of emotional fulfillment with your husband. Stop seeing or meeting this other guy and focus on the issues with your husband, perhaps a professional counselor would be more suitable than a website.
if all your attempts to salvage the marriage fails, then perhaps a divorce is in order. After that, you can have fun with this other guy with a clear conscience.
best wishes
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