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I'm extremely upset. One of my best friends I've been friends with for a about a year and I've officially decided I dislike her and want her significantly out of my life. I could write forever and give you the long explanation but I'll make it short. For the past two and a half months I've been annoyed, angry, and hurt by her and it's been a buildup.
I have now reached my breaking point and have come to realize that she is not the type of friend that I want and she is not the person she was when we first became friends. She pretty much uses me as a secondary backup friend and when when other people are around that she prefers, she conveniently ignores my existence. It makes me feel like crap. Sure it deeply hurts me, but it's gotten to the point where I just think she's a pathetic person and EVERYTHING she does bothers me. She's snobby, insecure, childish, extremely selfish, inconsiderate of other peoples' feelings, one of the biggest attention whores I've ever met, and just really irritating. I feel like every time I get hurt by her, the next day I like her again when she decides to show interest in me and it's just like a vicious cycle that is getting extremely old and I can't deal with it anymore.
A few of our other friends totally agree with me. I don't want to have a talk with her and let her know how I feel and what's bothering me, and vulnerably talk about how hurt my feelings are. I don't want there to be a fight either like we're in middle school. I just don't care to be her friend anymore and I'm trying very hard to avoid her. Seriously, it stresses me out and causes me anxiety when I'm around her most of the time. The problem is that next year, for college junior year we are all living in an apartment together. I like all my other friends I'm living with. We made these arrangements months ago and bailing out now would mean leaving all my other friends that I love and having nowhere else to go anyway. It's too late now. I'm just so upset at the fact that I've made this new found realization that I truly do not like her anymore, yet I have to spend the entire year next year with her. We're all in a sorority together too. I think I'm going to go insane living with her. I mean I have the summer to diffuse and everything and she could possibly be different next year but I don't know if I'll be able to handle her.
Like I said, every time I forgive her and "like" her again after being hurt, I just end up getting hurt again. I think that if I stop caring about her completely and decide to reduce our relationship to acquaintances, things won't bother me as much anymore. I just don't see how I can do that now. How do I avoid going nuts next year? Every day she irritates me more and I can't even imagine how old it will be months from now. Please, help me out. I'm confused and frustrated, and I really don't know what to do. Thank you (link)
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i am also in the same position and tried to stay far from her but as our class roll no. is adjacent i have to do every practicals with her. but she just talk and laugh with other boys. the only thing i can do for you is that you should not be upset at that moments. concentrate on your career. you are not so weak that any one can make you sad without your knowing. this is only a mere attraction which will fade away in course of time. if, you see this problem in different angle, then you can not deny that this can be your motivation to improve yourself ; and don't forget to make a girlfriend and introduce your gf to her. it will give you your self dignity and also pleasure. please reply if you like this. henceforth, you should be smart and talk to her infront of everyone .don't consider whether she ignores you or not. you just believe in yourself
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