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It seems like every day I go through the same issues. I feel like the whole world is against me and I feel useless and unwanted. I'm homeschooled and don't live near my church so am away from people my own age 90% of the time. When I am around people my own age, I always try to be the person they want me to be. I just realized that I don't know who I really am and don't know who the real me is. I don't get calls very often, but when I do, I always go over how I'm gonna act. I always act super happy, even times when I'm not. I've always felt like outside of family, there is no such thing as a true friend. Those that I get real close to that I'm not related to, always seem to let me down in the end. i used to feel I could trust everybody, but now I feel I can trust no one. For the past few days, I've just felt like crying. I'm always worried about how my life is gonna end up. I'm always worried that I'll fail at a job, relationship, friendship, family relationships, marriage, parenting, everything. I'm 16 wanting to move out when I'm 18, and constantly worried that I won't be able to pay the bills and will be a burden for my roommate, I don't even know how To move out. I feel like the whole world is against me, and it's become where I feel the only one I can truly depend on is myself. My cousin is the only one I believe will always be there for me through to the end of time. I know I don't have depression, because I'm not unhappy 100% of the time, it's just gotten where I go through major mood swings, and they are really hurting me. I'll be happy one minute and I tend to overthink things and it causes me to lose it. I usually keep my true feelings bottled up till I'm alone. I'm constantly thinking of moving out and feel very unhappy with my life. I feel helpless, unwanted, and trapped. I go through major mood swings over little things and its made me lose control of my thoughts causing me to feel like hurting myself even over the little things. Sometimes I do hurt myself. I usually try not to let things bother me, but lately I've been helpless. I feel I will never make friends, and that my life will be a total failure. This isn't something I will ever tell my parents, and I don't want to talks someone over the phone because it makes me uncomfortable. I am fine using websites though. There are many times when I'm happy so I have to ask...Whats wrong with me? And how can I get help without anyone knowing? (link)
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Sixteen is a very difficult time in the life of most people. You are still a child yet on tbe edge of adulthood. In any case, I think you realize you suffer more than most your age. Your self image is very poor and your acknowledgement of that can be the first step to overcoming this painful situation.
For whatever it is worth, someone once told me when I was very unsure of myself, "you are more than your problems; you are your potential." Those words meant so much to me. They represented hope for the future. And a future I realized and now embrace very joyfully.
My simple advice to you is to 1. go easy on yourself. You're not perfect; but who is?
2. if you grasp the concept of love, bestow some of that love upon yourself. Take care of yourself and respect yourself, with your flaws and imperfections.
If you could seek out professional advice, I would recommend that. Acknowledging that you need help can be a big first step toward securing for yourself the help you want and need.
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I had been married for 28 years. I have two grown-up kids. I leave with my husband under the same roof, but we are no husband and wife for almost 10 years. I never been happy in my marriage and when it comes to sex, I always went through the motions as it is my duty. My husband never satisfied me sexually.
I always been a woman that men liked and wanted to be regardless I was married. I never cheated on my husband.
Recently there are three men who are attracted to me (colleagues). One was asking me, if I’m still with my husband, second one was talking to me and making sexual comments during the party and asking if I’m married and the 3rd one is calling me his girlfriend, every time he sees me, he hugs and kiss). All these men are married.
Every time they see me they have a long eye contact and smile and enjoy talking with me, but none was making a move or asking me out. O believe it because I’m married.
I don’t know what these signs mean from those men, but I think If I meet the right men who will give me all the things I missed in my married life, I’ll say yes.
Can anyone explain to me the signs and tell me what you will do in my position.
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You want what all people want, love and some life in your life! Assuming you feel there is no hope for your marriage, my advice would be to get a divorce. Seek out the advice of your best female friends. Do not complicate your life with married men. You sound like a generally emotionally healthy woman and in time, I trust you will find someone who deserves your trust and attention. Do not be surprised if you encounter some disappointment as that is part and parcel of life. But be true to yourself and especially be patient with yourself. There is someone who will love and respect you and with whom you will flourish.
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