Member Since: December 11, 2015
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so i'm currently on Christmas break from school, and I'm just lonely and listless...I don't want to do anything...
I feel lonely, but my family is around all the time..normally I am happy to be around them but right now the only people I want to see are my friends and my crush but they are all busy right now...I haven't even received any emails from my friends since last weekend (and i don't have a phone so I can't text)...not even responses to emails that I sent...My brothers just irritate me, and my parents are around but too busy to talk or hang out...even when we got together with extended family, I didn't really feel like being with them...
I normally enjoy reading books and playing computer games, but computer games are not fun for me right now...just a way to pass the time...and the whole time I know i could be doing something better with my life...and when I read I just get more lonely because I'm reading about girls hanging out with their friends or their boyfriend, and I just miss my friends and want to get up courage to talk to my crush...and I feel more lonely...
sometimes when i'm bored I play the piano or do art, but those aren't satisfying either because my younger brother plays piano better than I do and I am not very good at art either....
I feel like i want to go back to school, but I don't want to go back to school because at school i have to do work and then I get tons of homework...
why? what can I do? any suggestions to feel less lonely, bored, listless, etc?? (link)
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I'm also on Christmas break and I have had no face to face contact with anyone apart from my family and my electronics. I know, how non-social but I'm an introvert and do not necessarily seek anyone else's company but my own. However, it seems that you are the opposite of me: someone who seeks the company of their friends.
You could text/email/call them to chat or hang out, but I'm guessing you don't want to seem as a bother to them since they haven't contacted you first. So I guess your source of entertainment relies upon yourself. This sense of boredom will only continue, unless you find something to occupy yourself with.
Try to improve on the piano, strive to become better and better yourself at your skills. Become encouraged by your brother rather than feel jealous of it, become his rival.
The same goes for art. I am deducing that you do not like them very well, but just see them as a way to pass time.
You have access to the internet so why not play games? Learn? Study? Look on websites for something you would like to do when you are older?
Watch TV shows, scroll through various ones until you find one you like; a great site to do this on is www.couchtuner.ag
Find a hobby. Find something you haven't tried before. Try baking or cooking in general. You don't know to be good at it, get permission from your parents first to use the kitchen to make anything. You don't even need to follow a recipe, just put anything in the bowl that you feel goes there. I tried this once when I made a delicious cake without a recipe, but rather used my brain and instinct. It was fun and you should try it to.
You could design your bedroom, sort out your drawers, become ready for school. Go shopping, go on your own, you don't always need friends to have fun. Shopping by yourself can be incredibly calming. Go anywhere by yourself, go on a walk and you'll be left alone with your thoughts and nature. It's relaxing.
Have a jam session with music. There is some great music out there and all you need to do is filter through them and find your taste. You will become enchanted. And while you're at it, dance to it. It's a good exercise and a great way to release stress.
Hope this helps, I've been in your situation before. I know how this can feel like, but this is temporary, trust! :P
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List of nicknames for a guy named 'Dotun'. (link)
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Donut, Do, Tun, Tunny, Dodo, D.
That's all I got, man.
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Whenever I start studying or doing homework, I get distracted by messages. I turned off iMessage, but I still somehow end up texting my friends at 10 pm at night, not finished any homework. I don't know how to fix this, I always make a schedule for myself including a few breaks but I can never stick to it and I eventually end unprepared for a test or not finished my homework. If anyone could provide me with some other useful methods to stop procrastinating, that would be great! Thank you! (link)
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As a fellow procrastinator myself, I know the trouble. I also know that this is a bad habit, extremely bad. You won't work with a schedule, you'll do the work when you feel like it or that your deadline is scarily near; I've been there.
It seems that electronics have captured you; my advice would be to take away ALL electronics until you have fully completed all that you needed to do.
Give your phone to your parents, lock away your electronics, there's an app on the computer that you can set up that prohibits you from visiting sites for a certain amount of time.
However, what I found that has worked for me is doing ALL my homework at school; the place which I dread. It helps with the idea of: 'finish this and you can go home'. It also helps with teachers and students lurking around that you will stay on task. Also, with the time limit of a curfew I legit have so much motivation that I finish all my homework.
I understand that this will be hard to overcome and heck, I will procrastinate EVERYTHING. Even basic things like handing in a form that my parents had to fill out. I comend you for seeking help, because it will take a lot of will power to overcome.
With exams coming up, it will be healthy to get into a studious attitude.
Good luck, you got this. -('3')-+
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