Member Since: February 11, 2009
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my friend, ashley, and i argue ALL THE TIME. i dont even really know why anymore. we'd been friends since about a year and a half ago, and we have these arguments, which turn into fights because i get pissed do easily. then when i get pissed, she gets pissed and it turns into a fight, and we end up not talking until the other one apologizes.
our most recent fight was because she said something and i commented on it, saying something i thought was true, and she proved me wrong and then we argued about that for a while. (this was on AIM) and then she wanted to change the subject cuz she was getting mad. so then she said something about herself, and i commented on that, but she misunderstood me, saying that i didnt know everything about her and that i need to quit talking down on her for things i dont know.
see, i thought we told eachother everything. and then i figured out that it was just me venting, and her listening, and never really letting me into her personal life. and i hate it when people know everything about me but i thought we had a good relationship. obviously not.
so anyways, she took what i said the wrong way, and logged off and told me that she'll talk to me when she cools down. my moods lift up and down so quickly, so i told her that i'd be over it waay before her. and then i found out that she was still mad from a fight we'd had a week ago! and i thought we were both over it!
what im asking here is how in the world can we still be good friends, without me trying to pry into her life so ill be sure not to say anything stupid, that can be misinterpretted.
we mostly get in fights over texts and AIM. we never fight when we're talking on the phone or in person, if that helps any.
i just want to know what im doing wrong so i can fix it, and things can go back to the way they were when we had first started being friends. :( (link)
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maybe you should be more patient because it sounds like when you get pissed ashley gets pissed. she sounds like shes sensitive. sometimes thats just how people are, sometimes theres something beyond that. i had a friend once, i thought we told eachother everything, then once i kept talking about how lucky she is that she has a sweet boyfriend and she snapped saying shes sick of how i claim to know everything about her and her relationship. i was confused and pissed as hell. a few months later i found out he was abusing her. she just kept it all in and usually took all of her hurt out on me when we got into fights.
im not saying this means shes dealing with something as serious as abuse, rape, death, or something like that. all im saying is i dont think everyone knows everything about anyone. if you tell her everything and she listens she must have some kind of love and respect for you. so i think you should return that and maybe try to see if somethings bothering her so she can vent or get help (if its serious) instead of pulling it up in fights.
like i said this was a bit of an extreme case so it might not really help here. but just in case its not just her being a bitch, which it VERY well could be, i think you shouldnt drop her just yet. give her time though if she asked for it. it doesnt mean shes still boiling angry but she might just be sick of how yall fight and not want to get into that again. maybe a break for you 2 would be nice.
-----------mysweetescape (Carly)
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