Member Since: December 4, 2011
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I am a 31 year old female, about 12 years ago i was diagnosed with a sexual disorder ( cant remember the name of it) that basically was the female equivalent of blue balls, but it would not go away through masturbation i had to actually have sex with a man something about the combination of his hormones mixing with mine. About a year ago all that stopped ( i thought for good) but this week it has kind of come back with a vengeance. is this really normal or could it be that disorder again? masturbation is only making it way worse and i am getting off pretty good but 5 mins later seems like it is worse than before. please help, if you have any suggestions. Oh and before it gets said i do have a boyfriend, he works and is gone 4 days a week then is home 4 days and while he is home we prolly have sex an average of 4-6 times. (link)
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I think there are medications that might cause this as a side effect. Read up on all possible side effects of any prescriptions, including birth control which I don't know much about.
How often does this happen? When you are initially excited outside the bedroom, it is already painful? Just to reduce pain, have you tried a vibrator down quite low and far back toward the mattress?
Can you get to an endocrine specialist to see if your hormones are imbalanced? I suppose the problem is worse at certain times of the month, as your female horomones fluxuate?
I think some symptoms do go away over the years, and come back. As you get closer to menopause, the problem could come and go, too.
My college friend had a similar problem, but the pain didn't start until sex was well under way. Her mother told her to slow processes down in the bedroom, be more gradual, and that helped.
They say the more sex a woman has, the more she wants. Have you considered practising total abstinence for a couple months just to see if it takes an edge off?
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I am an adult, married for 18 years, work full time, and have my own business, and a family which requires the rest of my time during the week. However, there are some Saturday or Sunday afternoons I would like to meet up with friends for coffee, a movie or other outing.
I only have two friends, and they are busy like me, but I try to make time for them, but they don't reciprocate. In fact, one of them is just plain rude about not returning calls and such, I am very irritated. I don't have time to volunteer or join any groups, clubs etc. So in light of this info, how would one make new friends? (link)
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I know how you feel. The world has changed. I heard the average American has 1 confidant. I hate to say it, but bars and taverns are open for drop-in friendship all weekend. Likewise, never a day goes by without 12 AA meetings in almost any town. If you go to a coffee shop 3 out of 4 Saturdays, the staff will start to share personally with you. Are you good at lingering? Any prisoner would be happy to meet with you some Saturdays. The same with a patient in a long-term care facility. If you walk a cute dog, or stand outside a store with one, people will stop to chat. If you wear your keys on one of those rubber stretchy bands, up on your arm by your elbow, the public will assume that you "work here" and will approach you for assistance in stores. That has opened up lots and lots of new acquaintences for me. Have you and your husband considered you hiring an escort for a Saturday outing once or twice? Because it could lead to a wider circle of acquaintences at best, and a funny story at least! In my area, bead shops have weekend drop-in hours. Even if you only pretend to like beading...it's good conversation and you would meet another business owner. Do you belong to local chapters of associations of business women? There must be something for business owners, especially women. Or, Soroptimists, Elks, Rotary, Eages, Women in computing, Chamber. You are not alone; I truly know how you feel. Our culture has basically lost true friendship values. Does your community have independent public radio? Those people are a good crowd, and those stations always have a place for many types of individuals in various roles. It would be great if you could find an activity that you like, in a regular place, and then it's a double-benefit because you like it anyway, and you might make friends. Many people turn to online chat rooms. Talkshoe has free online conference calls for all sorts of things, with chat rooms online with side talk. You local city Craigslist has social categories, not just classifieds. Peruse the Home page for groups, politics, etc... Don't give out personal info because creeps infiltrate, but you might end up meeting some very local people with common interests. It could lead to something. I recently finally decided to try Facebook, and it's been alright.
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I am a 12 year old boy. Yesterday I went to a Christmas party, and there was a conga line. the girl up front came back to me and had her hands on my shoulders. thats okay. but then she moved her hands to my hips. I would be allright with this, but she is a year younger than me, and it was uncomfortable. PLEASE HELP:( (link)
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In the conga line, most people are uncomfortable. It is a game that kind of pushes boundaries and allows people to touch in ways that would be taboo in normal situations. Some people plan ahead who they want to be near, if they know party games will be played. The best thing you can do in conga is try to get sandwiched between two people you know well, or try not to let her behind you (by moving away). In future situations with her, expect her to try to find ways to sort of make excuses to get near you. Plan ahead, maybe quietly tell a buddy, and stick close to buddy so she doesn't find an "in". But of course, don't be mean. Conga is over quickly, and the boundary-pushing isn't too serious, or shouldn't be. Just as she circled around to you, you as well, have the option of gently yet firmly moving forward and to the side to break away from her and make the line a snake shape again. You could also stage whisper to her, saying, "How would your boyfriend feel if he knew you moved your hands down further?" Or, "Why don't you keep you hands up, since you have a boyfriend?" Was she a short girl? Her arms might have gotten tired, especially if she has an unknown heart abnormality. Did other people move their hands down, too, or just her? Is she so young that she might not have known better? Maybe she doesn't like her boyfriend and maybe he just acts like he's her boyfriend. I never heard of anyone having a boyfriend at such a young age. I think awkward moments increase around your age. When awkward, remember that it will end soon, and try to remember the good things your parents or guardians taught you about manners. Others get awkward, too, and it might make them behave rudely. As long as you are civil, and as long as no one hurts you, you will always be able to hold your head high.
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