Member Since: May 13, 2005
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Last Update: May 13, 2005
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I'm 25/f and i have a 5 week old baby boy. I've been on my own since I was 13. My parents were horrible so I ran away. Because of my parents I started to drink and use drugs. I stopped using a week before I found out I was pregnant. I've been clean for 9 months and 7 weeks. I got this little apartment and I've been working two jobs to support me and my baby. I have been trying soo hard and I love him more than life itself but I can't do it anymore. I'm not being fair to him. I barely have enough money for food. We live in a tiny little apartment. The heat doesn't work half the time and I just feel like I'm not being fair to him.
My question is does anyone know a way that I can make more money to take care of him? Or are adoption agencies good at taking care of babies and finding them GOOD homes where he will taken care of like he deserves to be? (link)
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You have conquered the hardest thing, to stay clean and sober, so don't give up now. It's true your baby needs you, and you need to take good care of yourself, too. Having the responsibility for another human being makes everything harder, but not impossible.
Go to the nearest church and ask for guidance, or to the closest welfare agency. You may not qualify for the help they are organized for, but ask them for referrals to other agencies.
You probably qualify for housing assistance. It takes time, but the sooner you sign up for every program you qualify for the sooner you will receive some help....and keep checking back, some assistance will eventually come your way.
You probably also qualify for food stamps, or at least WIC, which can really be a help. If you qualify for that, your baby will receive medical care, too.
Since you have access to a computer, you can look up what is available close to you. Check on your City's web page, the County you live in, and the State's web page.
Keep asking for help until you find the help you need. All of these agencies are designed to help people help themsleves. Asking for help is not the same as asking for a hand-out. You are trying to manage your life and find a way to succeed on your own. Those agencies are there to help you do that.
There are private organizations that help women and children in need. Ask the nearest Salvation Army what assistance they might be able to give you. Call you County Welfare agency and see what programs you qualify for.
The long term solution to your situation is education. Check with the high school nearest you to see if they have any cooperative programs for working parents, night classes for GED, etc. Check with your local or state employment agency....they have training programs to help improve your earning ability. Sometimes the training/education programs are done in conjunction with child care training classes so that you have a place for your baby to be while you are in class/training.
Keep asking. Don't give up. You are a strong, valuable person. You can do whatever you have to do. You have come this far and have accomplished so much more than so many people have....people who have turned their back on responsibility and the needs of their children. God loves you and your child. He will open the doors for you if you knock.
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Me and this guy i really liked just broke up awhile ago and he said that he thought we should just be friends and stuff well it hurt but i was being a good player and put a smile on my face we talked on the fone a couple times but then when we hung out it got all weird i wanted to put my arms around him and stuff like i use to but i couldnt cuz we werent going out he just kinda chilled with everyone else..i still like him i cant get my mind off him i want to still be together i dont know if i should talk to him about it and tell him how im feeling and see if we can try again or just move on. can someone please help me! (link)
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Move on with your life. Don't focus on finding another "boyfriend" right way. Just have fun with your friends. When you bump into the "right" someone, you will both know it, and you won't feel terrible because it won't be a one-sided thing.
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So this kid Robert and I were "talking" for a while, but now he goes out with Emily, who's my friend. And Robert still calls me. And he always talks about how stuff Emily does annoys him. And he always calls and we end up talkin about Emily and how he doesn't wanna call her. And he gets mad at me when I don't talk to him at school and stuff, but he says he doesn't like me.. It confuses me... HELP!!!! (link)
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when Robert calls, you should always be too busy to talk....just on your way out, have homework to do, or need to help your parents do something. Whether he really likes you or not doesn't matter, the guy is an insecure loser who needs to believe that "everyone" likes him. You should try to find friends who like you for YOU, that you have interests in common with, and who don't send "confusing" mixed-messages. Maybe when Emily realizes how shallow Robert is, she will have more time to spend with you again.
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About three weeks ago, a strange rash(feels like tiny bumps)showed up in my left armpit. Its extremely itchy. I've tried different medications for skin rashes, but every time I try to put any medicine on it, there's extreme burning pain along with the itch. I remove it immediately, (medicine). Now the right armpit is doing the same thing. I'm a 47 yr old female, and have never had a rash like this that won't go away or allow any kind of medicine to be applied. I haven't been using any soaps on it, and have increased my water consumption to aid in healing. When I start to sweat, it becomes unbearable. Cornstarch doesn't seem to work, but petroleum jelly helps out some of the time, I don't use it all day long, which would be nice if I could, I know it needs to breathe, and not blocked by ointments or jelly. What can this annoying rash be? The color is light maroonish, it feels like tons of acne pimples side-by side. Please help (link)
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I hope you are not still suffering the discomfort of this rash. Seeing a doctor is the only answer. You could have poison ivy or poison oak....you would not believe how easy it is to have contact with the oil from poison oak without knowing it, and then spread the oil to parts of your body with your own hands. Seeing a dermatologist is an excellent suggestion, but if you haven't had a physical for some time, it would be good to have a routine health evaluation. For instance, a rash such as yours could actually be a yeast infection or be another symptom of an internal or underlying cause. Don't continue to try and second-guess a rash, fever, cough, or pain that doesn't go away.
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