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I'm 13/f, and I've been really sad lately. I'm in 8th grade, and for a while I had a lot of excitement in my life; I had my bat mitzvah during the summer, and I've been feeling that my life has been dull. I had been sad about my friends and guys, sad in general, especially at night. One night, I got so sad I cut myself...
I'm feeling depressed and I don't know what to do:(
-what do i do?-
*depressed

honey, it's just hormones - blame puberty - but still feeling blue isn't any excuse to hurt yourself. Talk to someone, any adult that you trust - write, read, turn your music up full blast and sing/dance along. You are so young - just do something to release the stress...(obviously other than drugs, alcohol or anything else that's harmful to yourself)

Also - guys and friends are not the be all and end all in life - sometimes it's better just to take care of yourself and make time for yourself to do something that YOU like doing.

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okay so im 13..and i have the BEST boyfriend in the world..and weve been going out for 2 years! and i feel so happy w/him and its not like so kid stuff, i relaly care for him..and he wants to finger me? but likewhen you finger someone doesnt like discharge get on your fingers? and im afraid he'll get grossed out..what should i do..should i let him?

Firstly, I think 13 is pretty young, in my opinion perhaps too young...
(but since I myself am only 16 and pretty immature in many ways perhaps my opinion doesn't count for much)
Anyway, as I was saying - if you think you and your bf are at a stage where YOU are ready to go further then fine, but you shouldn't get hung up about whether he'll get 'grossed' out because I mean, if he WANTS to do it, then he's obviously not worried about it anyway!

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ok my I dumped my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and now i really like him but he acts weird he flirts with me one minuite then round his friends he doesn't wanna know me but I think he still likes me but he keeps saying he's got his other girlfriend pregnant and I'm sick of hearng iit because I think he's lying what should I do I'm really confused please help me

Firstly: Grammar...it's a wonderful useful tool - do make use of it.

Secondly: Your ex sounds deranged - he's obviously very insecure and frankly, I'm sure you can do much better. Forget about him, and find someone who you enjoy being with and is not quite so messed up...

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