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My boyfriend confessed to me today that he cheated on me last weekend when he went out with his buddies. He said that he had sex with a strange girl that he met at a club/bar and he regrets doing it now. I still think he's lying about a few of the details because one of his buddies told me that they didn't go to just any club or a bar--they went to a strip club.
I'm really upset about it but my boyfriend says he's truly sorry and that it won't happen again. My best friend reminded me of the saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," and I am wondering if it's true. I don't think my boyfriend fully understands what his mistake has done to our relationship, and I don't know if I will be able to get over this betrayal anyway.
In your own experience, is the, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," saying true? Does anyone have any cases in which the saying is NOT true? Please, share your experiences with me so I know if I need to just end this madness before it really gets started! (link)
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In my opinon, it is true, for some people. If your boyfriend is going to strip clubs and having sex with some random girl, he is not worth of your time/love.
Ask tyourself these questions:
1. Does he love you 110%?
2. Would he want to be cheated on?
3. Do you deserve to be cheateed on?
4. Would you do the same to him?
5. Do you know that this is the first time he has cheated?
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so very recently, my mom and dad got a divorce. they had been seperated for a while, but that's not the point. see i've grown accostumed to my mom, but both my parents, are horrible. even they say it. so i basically live in silence. i go to school, i lock myself in my room hen im at home with her, and i go out with my friend. i don't have many friends, except her. well she's my only friend. but, i recently decided i wanna live with my dad. he's aay a lot, and even though he's the worst out of my parents (he told me he hated me, then didn't speak to me for a year, then moved out, then blamed me, then left me to cope with my fucking manic depressive mom, who basically needs to be looked after 24hrs a day.) i never made a big deal out of anything that goes on in my life, so now that i told her im depressed and i want to leave home, she obviously thinks im just whining. thing is, i don't like being dramtic or letting people know ho sad i am. so ho do i get her to be supportive without telling her all of this? her mom recently got her cancer back again, so i get she's annoyed by me moaning about my mom, which honestly, i haven't done AT ALL since she told me about it. but still. she get this look on her face. and i kno that look. it the one where she wants to tell me im being stupid, but she doesn't anna say it out loud. and i kno that the best advice is to talk to someone else, but im not kidding. i have no friends, except her. all i ant is her to be supportive of my moving. i mean, i know i seem happy about it all, but how does she not get that i hate my dad more than anyone in the world, and this move is way too hard to for me to do by myself, hich is what i am doing, beause my mom ain't doing anything, and my dad's just pissed that i'm 'forcing myself onto him'. it's really annoying. i mean, just because i didn't make a fuss about it, when it happened, doesn't mean it doesn't hurt now! and i didn't make a fuss, because my damned mother told me not to! im not good at confrontation, especially with my dad. i just clam up, and everyone thinks im whining over soemthing, just to get sympathy. all i want is my friend to get, that her parents wonderful family life, is not what i have. is that so hard for her to do? i just anna know if i should just stop trying with her. and bt, this question is aboutmy friend, not my family, i just wanted you to get the situation. thanx in advance. (link)
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Hey there! Sound like a *bleeped* up sitution your in. I completely understand, though. I was in a VERY similar sitution, too. (my parents fought for who HAD to have custody of me)
Anna, your friend, doesn't sound like a very good friend if she doesn't want you to be happy 100%. Or maybe she's right... Your dad seems very rude if he tells you he hates you.
You seem to be smart and caring, and Anna seems to be unwortly of your friendship. I sugest you do what makes you the most happy. Maybe join a club a school that interest you (i.e drama, photograghy, art, debate etc.) Or join a group of worship to make more friends.
Anna, from the sounds of it, is praying on your pain/weakness. Get a new friend(s).
Best of luck!
-emmzie
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