Member Since: March 7, 2016
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Last Update: March 7, 2016
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I have a gay best friend who has recently smothered me from the details of his new relationship. I hear about it EVERY SINGLE DAY. Literally. I am currently down and in a rut when it comes to my love life. And he knows this. He has,I'm not kidding,informed me if EVERY date,kiss,bite and sex they've had. And I just couldn't stand it anymore. I am by no means jealous. I just don't want to hear about relationships until I get my life together. So I sent him a message with this content:
"I have a favour to ask. And I know it's going to sound selfish,but I have to make this request. You know that I really don't have my shit together when it comes to my love life. And frankly it makes me uncomfortable hearing about you and him every single day. It's not about jealousy,I just think you're sharing too much of what is supposed to be private. Nonetheless I'm very glad that you two are happy. There,I had to get that off my chest."
And he replied by berating me about doing the same when I was dating so he thought it was OK. While I did tell him about my relationships,I never went into so much detail,and every single day. I feel at ease that I won't listen to that anymore,but I fesr I may lose his friendship now. Am I a bad person for simply wanting to be at peace from his constant nagging? (link)
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I think you did the right thing. That sounds like too much information and you did not ask to hear it. If he was a real friend he would understand that he was crossing the line instead of turning around and saying that you do the same thing. He doesn't seem very mature. And even if you did do the same thing then he should have spoken up and not get some kind of "payback" and do what you "did" to him IF that may be the case. But I don't know if that was really what he was thinking, you probably have a gut feeling for his actions. So trust it. Friendship is about listening just like in a relationship! its good to put boundaries in the future before things get too muddy. So no don't feel bad!
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