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Q: i'm a 16 year old male and i'm looking to switch my style up for the next year.for as long as i can remember i've always stuck with stuff like band shirts and various skater clothes with jeans...that gets kind of old.what can i wear that's like that but a little more exciting.i'm kind of looking for shirts that have designs all over them instead of just a little something on the front or whatever but i can't find any.
Try going with the DIY (do it yourself) style, some guys I know have found this more entertaining then just buying a new outfit, plus you can make it completely your on, try threadbanger for some tips :]

Q: One of my Christmas presents from last year was a trip to New York to see a musical on Broadway [I live in Boston].

I was wondering what are some good shows playing on Broadway right now, or playing in the near future?

And, I don't even know if these are playing, but please don't say: Phantom Of The Opera, Hairspray, Les Mis, Little Shop Of Horrors, Rent, Wicked, or the Leagually Blonde one.

[I've already looked into/seen these ones, and I want ideas for some I haven't considered yet.]
I got the oppertunity to see Chicago on Broadwayonce, it was my forst show and AMAZING. Of course,I'm obsessed with that timre period, but it was great, I've also head good things about Beauty and the Beast (not sure if it's still playing), the spelling bee and hairspray.

Q: what does everyone think are good baby names for a boy and a girl. give as many as u want. thanks to all!!
girls:
katie
amora
quinn
quince
tyne
faye
regan
cadence
sandra
darryl
winnie
hannah
erin

boys:
drerek
skye
skylar
wesley
colton
loren
maxwell
nathan
shane
james
brent

Q: which condom is best to be used during sex?
It really depends on your preferences, Trojan is one of the best, although be sure to always have a back up such as birth control just incase the condom breaks. Trust me, I know some people that have gotten pregnant on that mistake. Also be sure to use lubricated or buy the lube yourself, otherwise you have a good chance of condom breakage...

Q: okay so my boyfriend is only a year older but a year is a lot with us because im going into seventh grade and he is going into eighth. He always tells me about how his best friend got to third in a cemetery and stuff and well i know that he wants to go farther too. and if he tries to touch my boobs or take off my shirt i always tell him no because i dont want him to see the stretch marks on my boobs. what should i do.

thanks xox
Well in all honesty I don't think that you should be doing anything along thoes lines at all when you're in seventh grade, but since you asked, I'll answer you.

As dfar as the stretch marks go, they can be embarassing, I myself bloomed before most people I know. I suggest coco butter, make sure you get the one that's meant for stretch marks and it will greatly reduce their appearance overtime.

Q: is it normal when you're first being fingered it hurts and when being switched to 2 or 3 fingers it feels like your about to bleed or blow up?!
and is it natural it hurts when you're dry down there?
Yes, it would definitely hurt if you were dry diown there. Either wait until the juices are flowing or use lube,otherwise it will be quite painful. As far as fingering in generakl goes, if you don't have much sexual contact, it might just be the fact that your vagina itself is extreamly sensative because you've never done anything along thoes lines before and someone else is the worst person to do it the first time.

Best of luck, dreadlydearest

Q: I'm not gonna be your average 14 year old girl and ask why my life sucks. I know why. It's my fault I pushed people away and made them mad. I talked shit. That's why he doesn't like me that's why everyone hates. I'm a loser and I know it. I was just gonna ask should I end it all so I won't have to deal? I really need help. I'm not trying anymore. I can't even get an ugly guy to talk to me because I"m ugly and stupid and I basically don't fit in with just about anyone.
Don't end it all, trust me... I used to have serious depression issues a few years back, attempted suicide and everything and now that I look back on it, it was really for pathetic reasons. There's a whole world of people out there, many with worse problems then you and they aren't killing themselves over it. Not to sound harsh or anything but you need to work hrough this. Talk to the people that are mad at you, try to work it out. If you're sincere, to the point and willing to change your ways most people will forgive you. And as far as the guy thing goes, no guy is worth your life and that's something that you need to remember forever. Guys come and go, but everyone goes through heartbreak, and yeah, it sucks majorly but if you get through it, it's worth it in the end and you can learn from the mistakes you made. Talking about it here though and asking fir advice is probably the best thing that you've done though, it shows that you're willing to ask for help and aren't completely lost in your need to end it all. I'd suggest talking to someone that you're close to about it, an authority figure of sorts. I myself sought refuge in my aunt when times were tough. Ansd althouh it might seem like there's no bright future, if you talk to someone about your problemd and make it through this rut, life will become a lot easier. So in the words of dori, "just keep swimming" and get some help, you might infact be havuing somre serious depression problems as well and if so might be perscribed medication from your doctor to help.

Best of luck, dreadlydearest

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dreadlydearest
Hiya. My Name is Meg, I'm 17 and I currently reside i a small town in New England of the USA of course. I'm a big fan of other countries and traveling although I've currently only been to canada as far as traveling outside the US goes, trust me as soon as I save up enough, I'm off to backpacking Europe, yay! Most people that know me, know that I'm a bit of everything as far as personality and likings go, therefore I've had a dip in most situations that you're in and will more then likely be able to help with my large assortment of odd facts and experiences. I'm an ethical vegan and have been one for almost a year, before that I was a vegetarian for 6 months and although I may seem new in some people's eyes, I did my homework and own or have at least rented from the library several books on animal testing, rights, welfare, life in slaughterhouses, etc. I'm also well aware of the health benefits of the vegetarian, vegan and raw vegan diets (having dipped into raw at several points in my life). Overall though I've found that I've had a taste of most issues, including homophomic parents, super religious family, drug addict friends, friends with eating disorders, relationship problems, clinical depression, anxiety, OCD, arthritis, etc. So if you have any Questions, feel free to ask away, I'm an open book.


p.s. for thoes of you wondering my name sprouts from my odd love for dreadlocks :]

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