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So basically, me and this friend of mine are extremely alike. We mirror each other down to our very actions (even things such as morals and humor and art.) We even get confused of being twins or sisters a lot of the time.
She's a great friend, but she's also my boyfriends ex girlfriend(from years ago.)
Granted, they only dated for about a month, and it was awhile ago- However I feel like if they were ever to meet they would connect again.
My feelings only felt more validated when I had a dream the other night. The dream went that she was just better than me in every way shape and form - Doing everything I've done but better- and my boyfriend was head over heels for her.
I don't know where this is coming from, but I feel like I have a seed of jealousy growing inside of me , due to my friendship with her.
And in reality- I do feel a bit of jealousy towards her in those aspects -
We tend to copy each other a lot , she usually buys the same things I buy/ material things like that.
But lately - it's been getting on my nerves.
I feel questionable towards my identity-- for some odd reason - is this normal?
We have plans to start an online shop together , and she's kind of been feeding off of all of my ideas. I'm starting to question my friendship with this girl, but I know none of this is her intention.
I feel like if she can steal my ideas , she can steal my boyfriend-
For my own sanity - I need advice
How can I block out these feelings, or finally discard them once and for all?
Thanks so much,
--The Inferior One
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Hello there!
First things first, I would like to start by allaying your concerns over the dream about your friend being better than you. People tend to dream about things that they have been over thinking and paranoid about and is up pose this issue has robsbly been on your mind for days hence the possible occurrence of such a dream. Have you asked your boyfriend why they broke up initially? Perhaps it was due to differences which resulted in their incompatibility which I can safely say will not change over the years. If though are still worried, perhaps thou can tock to your friend about this and assuming that she is a good friend, I assure you she will understand your perspective. As for your irritation towards her copying you, I honestly believe that it is due to the jealously... After all, even a persons sneeze can irritate another if one is jealous of the other. Your boyfriend chose to be with your for a reason. And remember that, you are always special in your own way, different, but ntuc inferior! :)
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Hey guys
I really need advice. My boyfriend is 17 and im 16.His friends know he is dating me and he has my name on his relationship status on facebook so its not like he is trying to hide it. I mean, he always says to me, "im so lucky to have you your the most beautiful girl i have ever seen and i never even thought i would be this lucky to even have a chance with you."
The weird part is, i noticed when his friends are around when i am with him, he tries to avoid them. I know who his friends are and stuff they go to my school. But for example when we were in his room at his house,his sister had one of his friends over (the friend is friends with him and his sister) and my boyfriend told me to be really quiet. I kept asking him why and he wouldnt tell me. He opened the door to his room quick and said hi to his friend and then shut the door again. He kept telling me not to say anything. I persistantly kept asking him why and finally after a long time he said because he didnt want his friend coming in and saying stuff. ???? To me that sounds like a stupid reason and not really beleivable but i cant think of any reason why he did that. Any ideas?
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Hello there! Your boyfriend sounds really sweet with those Facebook updates. Honestly, I don't think that he is ashamed of you or anything like that, but rather, he might just want to keep you all to himself! Perhaps he is afraid he's friends might say certain things that are inappropriate and it is possible that he is trying to protect you... Anyways, maybe try to talk to him and him kindly why... Hope this helps!:)
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Why does my dad hate me, and how can I get him to love me? (link)
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I do not know the extend of your relationship with your dad, but I believe that no parent will hate their child. If you really feel as though your father hates you, perhaps you can talk to your father directly or talk to your mother and aske her to speak to your father on your behalf. Give your dad a hug or tell him you love him occasionally, this will definitely make his day! I hope your relationship will improve:)
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I'm 18 years old, and I work part-time after school. A few months ago, this new guy came in. He's a bit older than I am, and really funny and very cute, and I immediately took a liking to him.
I didn't think he'd ever be interested, but we started talking and he's asked to hook up. I have a few concerns;
1. He's in his 20s, and I feel like hooking up to him is sex. I don't feel comfortable going all the way with someone that I'm not even dating.
2. I like his personality, and I worry that getting physically intimate will cause me to develop feelings for him.
3. I gained a lot of weight recently. I'm just barely overweight, and you can't really tell how big I am in clothes. If I were to take anything off, I'm sure he'd notice some... trouble areas...
So, what should I do?
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Hello!
My fellow ally, I must be honest and admit that I face the same problem as you. However, I for one do not believe in empowering the make species and allowing them to alleviated my insecurities! We are women of the 21st century, we are independent and strong! Why let some guy dictate how you feel about yourself? If you do not feel comfortable about going all the way, then don't. If he really is all that good, he will wait for you like the reflect gentlemen. With respect to the weight issue, if hpyou do not feel good about your body size, then it is time to make a change in your lifestyle. We women do not need men to make us feel secure, we can look good and feel good on our own. Of course, having a relationship is nice, however just remember you do not have to sleep with him to measure to measure your self worth. You are better then that:)
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