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I have this best friend I've known for 6 years now. She has been with her boyfriend for over a year now and sometimes I start to think I am becoming less important to her since her boyfriend came in the picture.
I tried to tell her how happy I am of her and her boyfriend but sometimes i feel left out of most things her and I used to do. Sometimes I feel like I'm the one crawling to her cause it's ALWAYS me asking her to come over to hang out or to go to the mall.
What bugs me the most is that when she's over my house to spend the night, she's talking to her boyfriend 9 pm til 2 in the morning. I've noticed that whenever I tried to make plans with her she pretty much says "Oh, I can't do anything today" then the next hour later, she's off at the mall with her boyfriend.
I don't mean to sound jealous at all, though I do get easily jealous but since I've started a new school year and a totaly different school, I don't want to get jealous of the stupidest things anymore.
I've also noticed that she's a totaly different person when she's around her boyfriend compared to me. When she's with me she's all crazy and wild and herself, but whenever we're (her boyfriend, her and I) are at the mall, her boyfriend would crack a joke about something and she'll end up laughing at me.
Another thing is that she tells her boyfriend EVERYTHING. I even have to tell her that I don't want anyone knowing in order to keep something between her and I private. I don't mean to sound rude or dis-respectful but I think her boyfriend should give her some space sometimes, he calls every minute when she's over my house and she tells him what we're doing, where we're going, blah, blah, blah.
Whenever I mention to her about "She pays more attention to her boyfriend than her other friends" and that "She never hangs out with me or other friends as often anymore" it's weird cause whenever I mention those things THEN that's where she'll start making plans.
Ah, I don't know what to do. It seems like she could care less about what I think of this whole thing, she wouldn't understand, trust me I tried telling her couple of times, she thinks it's no biggie.
It seems like she's kicking me out of the picture.
My closet friend is now someone I knew for 2 years and My friend who has the boyfriend I've known for 6 years.
What do you think I should do about this?
My friends told me I should talk to her about her forgetting about me and barely ever inviting me to places anymore. But I've tried that already.
I'm terribly sorry that this is extremely long but it's been bothering me for the past week.
Thanks bunches :) (link)
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Dear you,
I have had the same problem. My friend got a boyfriend and all of a sudden, we never talked any more. Ever night in bed I thought about all the mean stuff she did to me. Here is what I did. I just stopped talking to her. I totally ignored her. It took her about one day to relize that I was really mad at her. She tried to talk to me but I blew her off. After about 3 days of this, I went to talk to her. I told her that what she was feeling when I was mad at her was what I was feeling when she would blow me off for her boyfriend. She ended up understanding and her and I sat down and mad plans in the future to hang out, that way she could make plans with her boyfriend and not have to tell me that she couldn't hang out with me.
Hope that helps,
Cherryfizzle
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