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When I first met my boyfriend of one year we never talked about our sexual past. It wasn't until 9 months into our relationship that he started to ask me questions about it. I have had a pretty wild sexual past. When I was single in college, I had almost 30 sexual partners. I have never had a problem with infidelity and have always been faithful when I was in a relationship. Furthermore, I had some crazy experiences after college. I also slept with my boss, who I started dating several months after I took the job. Anyway, at first I didn't tell him how many sexual partners I had had. He is separated from his wife because she cheated on him while they were married. I thought that if I told him the truth in the beginning that he wouldn't be able to trust me and think that I could not be faithful because of my sexual past, let alone think of me as a slut(which I sadly admit I was and I am more than ashamed of it now). Anyway, he is a smart man and sooner enough he figured-out that I had lied to him. Finally, he broke up with me for lying to him about it. When we broke up, I finally came clean because I figured I had nothing to lose. We ended up getting back together. However, things have not been pretty since we got back together. Now, almost every 15 days he keeps getting reminded about my sexual past. He says that I am not the marrying type and that my past speaks a lot about my future. I am deeply in love with him and our sex and time we spend together is incredible. He just flips out at random times about my past. He is also upset that I wasn't honest with him. However, in a way, I regret being honest with him now because it's like he loves me and hates me and sometimes wants a future with me and sometimes doesn't. I don't know what to do or how to make him see past my past. Furthermore, he is constantly curious about whether my exes from my past still call me, or write to me or message me on Facebook. He just doesn't trust me no matter what I do. However, I am so confused because even though he gets upset and tells me he hates my past and I was such a slut, he asked me to move in with him recently. I do not know what's going on. I love him and want to move in with him but if I am "not the marrying type," do you think he will he ever change his mind and possibly want to marry me some day? I also have had sexual encounters with different races, and that seems to bother him a lot. He has slept with over 50 women and has been with ALL races, but he seems to get so mad that I have been with a different race. I think it's hypocritical right? Please help. We love each other and I feel like saving my relationship. Everything is perfect except these moments that he flips out very two weeks. (link)
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Hello
Most women don\'t realize that their past often
determines the way men see them.The women\'s movement
and the sexual revolution has allowed women to act like men. But here is the kicker WOMEN ARE NOT MEN!
And vise versa. Men hold women that they want to be their bride to be \"on a pedestal\".Women are no longer held in this regard. Feminism has done incredible damage to the family (or potential for it). If women should not be held accountable for their past then men should not be \"chastised\" about not \"manning up\" and marrying women. Women lie about their past and in return men lie about love and commitment. tit for tat. At least the young man is holding to his standard\'s. But men can\'t have standards can they ? Yes they can and their holding to them and women don\'t like that. Tough.In your case you would have had a better chance by lying. I am not judging you but if your man can\'t get past this then you will have no choice but to break up. Next time tell the man that your with that you don\'t discuss the past. There\'s no guarantee but will improve your chances. Don\'t blame him. Blame Femminism.
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