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17/f
I'm turning 18 in two weeks, I'm partially excited.. But yet, I'm really depressed about it. I get more and more sad when the day gets closer. I'm already stressed out about school, because I can't help but think about when each of my assignments are due. It makes me realize what day it is, and I just think. "This many days till my birthday, and my parents divorce." Why are they divorcing? Money problem. When I'm 18, I'm no longer getting government money. My dad is retired, and he's turning 73 a week before I am. And it gets me really sad whenever I see him try to win the lottery, and hearing from my sister that my dad says my mom doesn't want him anymore because he can't support us financially. And it gets me really upset, because I won't be able to see him anymore. He's leaving, so it hurts whenever I see him try to do whatever he can now. I see him, clean, cook, garden, fix my car, before he's not here anymore. He's going to be moving in with his little sister to watch over his mom since she currently went blind.
I'm happy he gets to take care of her, but yet; he's going to be in another city. Which makes me sad. I keep wanting him to stay, but I don't want my parents to argue. My mom wants to stick around me and my older sister to take care of us when we're already growing up. I mean, my sister's turning 23 this year and she already moved out. My mom still wants to watch over us.
I know, I can't stop time. I wish I could. I'm trying my best to think positive about this whole situation, and keep thinking and hoping that he won't leave on my birthday or even discuss divorce on my birthday. Because, my birthdays have never went well.. Ever. There wasn't a day where I didn't cry or get frustrated, a day that it always rained. My parents wouldn't understand if I even spoke to them about it.
They don't consider mine or my sister's opinions, because they say it's their decision. Maybe one day I can go visit my dad & his mom now and then? But I would really miss him living in the same house.. Especially since my mom would be working even harder to even keep up with the financial problems. Help! How do I even think positive or even feel a little bit better on my birthday? (link)
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after you turn 18, you can go see your dad whenever you want, even if your mom won't like it. Even though they decided to divorce on your birthday, i would say go out, leave them at home to get everything together and done. sweetheart, being to old to be irresponsible and too young to act how/when you want is the literal epitome of hell, so here's what i am leaving you with:
NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO TELL YOU HOW TO FEEL.
if you want to throw a fit, and get angry, and scream, that's your business. You don't have to try and stay positive if you need to let it out. So go out on your birthday and have a real bitchin time; take that day for yourself and deal with it tomorrow.
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I'm 14 and a chick.
My friends expect me to be some hard core rock metal fan because I have blue hair and combat boots. Truth is, I'm a die hard Simon & Garfunkel fan, lol. I like old people music. Is this normal? (link)
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i know how you feel. 18 here, i listen to indie bands and look like i walked out of the 40's. because i am modest in clothing (it's a personal thing, due to some sexual interests of mine) most people seem to think that i'm a mormon.
don't worry about it, revel in proving them wrong.
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Well here is some info about our situation. I am 17 f from Canada, he is 17 m from Usa. We met on the site omegle and ever since have been talking everyday for almost 13 months. We have never met in person. we only see eachother on skype from cam and voice. We have been planning for him to come up and meet me this summer. But...we are still waiting to see if his parents are going to allow him to or not. But there is also an issue of us getting jobs in the summer as well as him gettin the money to come here. Passport and wat not he has 2 get, but hes parents havent said if he is allowed to or not yet. so 4 or 5 months we are thinking a bout meeting. Dunno if its gonna happen though, weve been waiting for an answer for 13 months pretty much. I love him. He loves me. I know we are 17, but we are capable of love and it is my decision if i love some one or not. so please dont say i dont know wat love is. Yes everything is over the computer...you can still fall in love.
Well...i was talking to my cousin lastnit at a hockey game, and she was really talking to me about my whole long distance thing. ALot of wat she said made sense, and i have actually thought about them for months now. the idea that say he couldnt make it to come see me...what do we do then? still sit on the computer everyday and hope hell come next year? I love him so much, but my cousin said that ill regret not dating and doing stuff because im waiting for him. which is true, i feel that way. We both think that no one is going to come our way and that we are the ones for eachother. My cousin also said how his gonna be in college for 4 years...in that 4 years how many times is he gonna see me? which i tihnk is going to be very low not to metion its going to be harder because well only b able to see eachother for like 2 wks then he goes bk. There is alot more things on my mind, but i cant put them into words.
What i am asking is...should we still talk to eachother, but we can still date other people, as long as they know about the whole situation? should we try and do this because our love is so strong for eachother...in the mean while we have no clue how we are gonna be in person because its completly differnt? Should we end it and only b friends, but the thought of that makes me sick...cause we are so simular, he makes me so happy, he makes me laugh, he cares for me so much and does so much for me and hes always here for me. Iv never had a bf before...never kissed or had any physical contact with a guy ever. There is a guy i have been talkint to that wanted to hang out sometime...but id want my first date with Jake (the guy frm usa i talk to), my first kiss with him etc cause it means so much to the both of us, i just dont wanna do that for just anyone one.
There is alot on my mind at this point, it is extremely hard to do this, i cry at points because i just want to feel him or know how he smells or kisses ect. We are young, we do understand the positive and negative parts of this realtionship.
I just dont want us to regret dating within that 4 years or missing out on potential experenices. I dont want us to waste our lives on the computer when we could b in a real relationship with that physical intimacy. but we are perfect for eachother just no in the perfect situation. I cant see myself being with another guy besides him cause he has everything i want and need.
What do you think? Are you in the same situation?
what do you think we should do? Sorry for this being really long...i just have alot on my mind lol.
Ps. He is going to college next year...where there will me tons of new people and girls...so i think in ways us talking to eachother but we can still date is a good way...but he doesnt like it. he doesnt want to loose me. He was on verge of tears lastnit cause he doesnt want me to be with another guy. this is really hard decision...i just need some adive? thank you so much for your time and effort, i really appreciate it! thank you (link)
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first and foremost, being together and still dating is MUCH MUCH HARDER than just being together, even including that you're long distance. secondly, this can be nothing or everything depending on whether you still feel the good times are worth the bad.
people have put together this life pattern we're supposed to follow. go to high school and date around, maybe have a sweetheart. go to college, date around, have questionable sex experiences, and then fall in love and reproduce. it's the most rediculous thing.
in high school i could never follow that. I dated for long periods of time with few boys, all at least a year. one guy for two years. I have now been with someone long distance for over a year. I love him tenderly, and i would be so lost without him, so i completely agree that you can fall in love without ever really meeting someone.
now, if you really really don't want to lose him, or be with someone else, you have a couple options. You can work while he's at college and then go to move with him, and either continue working or go to college there (or vice versa). College won't make you unable to see each other, it opens up more time to see one another.
HOWEVER. do yourself a favor, and always always ALWAYS keep at LEAST 500 dollars in the bank if you need to get out of there. If things don't work out (even if you think they never will, as i do with my boyfriend) then you can pack up and leave the next day. nothing is more awkward than having to live together while trying to figure a way out.
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11/F
Well since i was small i wouldnt get the best grades, and now im in 6th grade and im about 4 months away from graduating and i got a paper for something called "intersetion" its for people that need to get their grades back up and my mom got pissed, but im trying so hard but she wont understand; help me i dont know what to do anymore :( (link)
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don't think of your mom as an evil monster. she is seeing your education as a direct result to how you'll fare in life.... but let me tell you a few secrets:
1. no one ever looks at your permenant record. ever. I threatened to kill someone at your age and was put into suspension. I got out of high school with a 3.5.
2. your grades don't really count until 9th grade. keep trying hard, and aim for a 2.5 (that's the lowest academic result for scholarships) and once you get there, aim for a 3.0. (and so on)
3. I know it sucks for your mom to be upset with you, but in the end no one is in control of your education (and its results) but yourself. do it for yourself instead of her approval and you'll do better.
4. talk to her and explain that you are having troubles. perhaps ask her to help with things you struggle with, so she can see where you have problems, why, and how big they feel.
5. and for future reference, you'll always do less than your best during the first year of junior and high school; it's new and you're still trying to fit into it.
good luck.
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