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Last Update: February 13, 2007
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i've had a best friend for 3 yearz and we both got caught lying and sneaking out and my parents grounded me from ever seeing her agen..im not allowed to hang out wid her AT ALL forver.i really lost their trust wid me and my best friend. but the thing is shes the only one i talk to in this town dat relle cares about me. and i told my parents dat but they dont care no matter what i sai.dey tell me to find another best friend but i cant bc i only want her and im not going to find another best friend this quick. i cant just forget 3 years of friendship. please help on what could i do. i rate good. (link)
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Try to see if this works. I would suggest your best friend do the same, then when you think you've tried hard, have you and your best friends parents sit down together and talk.
Steps
1. Communication - If you have something to discuss with your parents, make sure that you get it out and tell them. It's all about give and take; if you trust them not to overreact, they will trust you to let them know what you're really doing. Don't give up on communication and you can help create an environment that supports a trusting relationship.
2. Friendship - Friends trust, listen, and respect each other. Do the best you can to become friends with your parents. Do things around the house for them, and let them share their opinions with you.
3. Respect - This goes both ways. You need to give your parents respect and they should do the same for you. Recognize that while you may be in different positions and coming from different points of view, each deserves to be treated with respect.
4. Truth - Lying is a horrible thing to do. If you lie, you're only making problems bigger, and if you lie, your parents will never trust you. This is a fact. If you've done something wrong, lying about it won't make matters better for anyone - including yourself - in the long-term. And it's the long-term that generates trust.
5. Get up and do it - If you believe something is right, do it. If your parents still don't seem to believe in you, prove to them that you are capable and deserving of their trust. Thinking and planning won't get anyone far; you have to get out there and show them just who you are and why they should trust you.
Tips
• Talk with your parents. If you don't get along with your parents very well, ask them nicely if you can talk with them. Clearly state out your issues and ask for their opinion. Speak your say, and listen openly to their responses.
• Think trustworthy. What would a trustworthy person do? How would a trustworthy person behave? Act like that person.
Warnings
• Building trust takes time. Don't expect it to happen after just a few "trust-building" experiences. It will grow through those and become stronger as they build upon each other.
• Little things count. If small, daily actions are not consistent with a trusting relationship, the trust will erode away quickly. Alternatively, even small acts can help build trust.
• try not to break their trust, for it is HARD to earn back!
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