Member Since: October 17, 2003
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Last Update: October 17, 2003
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I work at FedEx and there's this guy that got hired on the same time I did. We became friends, and we've seen each other outside of work but strictly as friends. Now, for no reason at all, he's stopped talking to me. He goes into work a different way so I don't see him. He doesn't talk to me online, and when he sees me online, he puts up an away message. I figure he's met someone but I thought we were just friends so that shouldn't matter. I hate feeling like someone is avoiding me like a plague, especially when I didn't do anything. What's going on? (link)
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So, have you heard of pod-people?
No, really, people are assholes all the time, for all kinds of different reasons. Maybe you said/did something that hurt his feelings, without even realizing it. Maybe he's confused about his feelings for you and, in light of his new relationship, isn't sure how you fit into the picture. Maybe he's just a jerk.
If you really value this particular friendship, you might consider sending out some sort of feeler. Not a stalk-you-down, "I followed you to work yesterday and saw you went in the back way to avoid me" way...but just in a "Hey, how's it going? I get this vibe from you recently, like you'd rather not hang out/talk, and I was wondering if there's anything going on that we could talk about, or if you just maybe need a little space right now?" way.
If you get the feeling that the new Significant Other is the problem, maybe help him straighten out the difference between a love-life and a friendship by interacting with him in neutral territory. I.e., instead of those long heart-felt talks on your instant-messenger, invite him to a baseball game with you and your friends. Keep your topics neutral and wait for him to realize that he misses your friendship enough to figure out his problems.
If, on the other hand, he continues to blow you off with no explanation, try to find a way to move on. Friends who drop you like a hot-potato the second they get some lovin' from someone else are not really very good friends at all. And how many bad friends do you really need?
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