Member Since: September 28, 2009
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Last Update: September 28, 2009
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For weeks I have been iffy about even writing this.
I am young 18 and just got married in August. I am pregnant that is not why we got married but I think we rushed into it. We were planning the wedding already had my wedding dress before i found out I was Pregnant.
Sometimes I find myself regretting getting marred My reasons. I wanted to work days and go to school nights. It would be tough but id be able to better myself for me and my family he through a fit and didnt support me at all. told me either work or go to school but advises me to work because we need the money. Being pregnant I have my mood swings like most if we have an argument its all my fault he will yell at me and blame me then make me feel guilty by saying oh its always all my fault i forgot your so perfect. sometimes he makes im crap. If i feel nauses or sick at night or anything and he wants sex he pouts and acts like he is mad by not saying a workd until he gets it then goes to sleep. he goes hunting, fishing, baseball teams and tournaments etc. anything he wants and i dont argue about it i just let him.
I have asked a million times to look harder for a job. he works 2 days aweek at a sale barn doing something he likes i work full time on my swallon feet 40+ hours a week and come home exhausted and tired. its like he dont care he doesnt want to even try to look he put an app. in at burgerking one app.. in 5 weeks? we live at my dads. which i dont feel is save but dont have a choice. hes lazy
and to top it off he always wants to spend money. i used to get food stamps which just stopped but hed want a gallon of tea every 2 days. go out and buy food he wants all the time because hes to lazy to cook one thing or wait for it to get done. as soon as he gets paid he goes and spends most of the money on garbage food and gets mad when i tell him i dont want it id rather eat food i cook at home.
I love my husband to death trust me and want to work things out but i dont know what to do i talk to him about it and itslike it is in one ear and out the other. (link)
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wow. sounds like your situation is pretty close to mine. I'm 19 and have a baby and married. Most kids our age, are at college having the time of their life in a sorority or frat, studying abroad, pursing their dreams... getting married is something people do late on in life when they have really figured out for the most part who they are and what they really want. Their mature desires. I'm not saying you can't have those when your 18, (cause I'm in the same situation) but its okay not to. You're young, so i'm guessing your husband is too. I completely understand you still loving him and having the issues you do. Divorce is the easy way out, which alot of people are taking these days. I'm not gonna tell you to go get divorced right away because your treated like shit. First, make him realize you feel like your treated like shit. make him sit down and listen to you. say you understand that in this economy you understand that its hard to find a job, but that doesn't mean give up looking. Tell him that if he cares about you and his child to stop thinking of himself and spending money on him. Tell him you need to save money for your child. Tell him that having a baby is a life altering thing, that forces you to be completely selfless, tell him that you've made the changes but now he needs to. tell him its time to grow up and take responsibility for the family he chose to create. make sure he's really listening. tell him that you love him and want to do everything in your power to make it work, you just need him to meet you half way and you don't feel like he's doing that now and ask him to please step it up and prepare to take this rollercoaster of a marriage with you. good luck with everything. hope i helped.
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