Member Since: January 17, 2007
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First of all, I have been in a very calm, steady & fulfilling relationship. The person I am involved with completes me. I am emotionally dependent. I centered my whole 4 yrs. never cheated, always thoughtful and caring. However, just two days ago, we had a heart to heart talk. We both feel it is time to move on. No 3rd party involved on both our part but I guess we both feel it is time to move on. The hard part is that I want to cling, remain & continue but I know in doing so I will completely lose myself. Right now, I am suffering. Have anxiety attacks & feel like my stomach turns upside down. Part of me died too.
Please don't ask me details why do we have to part ways... All I am saying is that it is time to do it. My question is --- what should i do to feel once more... What should I do to stop the nervous attacks? What should I do to stop being emotionally dependent. I am tearing apart. Anyone??? Please... (link)
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Thank you so much for taking time to help me out. I appreciate it. Ok for the details why we have to part ways is that:
HIS REASONS:
1. HE SAYS HE NEED TO SPEND TIME WITH OTHER FRIENDS TOO. You see for 4 yrs we both have been like centered to each other. We hang out, we travel, we do most of the things together. We don't live together but almost 3-5 times a week we are together.
2. WE HAVE DIFFERENT RELIGION. He says he has been committing many unchristian things. He wants us to fix things but not as lovers but as friends.
MY REASONS :
1. I BECAME TO ATTACHED, TOO emotionally dependent to the extent that I make plans making sure it will blend on my time. And if the appointments would interfere with my time with him, i cancelled all my appointments.
2. I know the feeling is no longer healthy. I am in love. I would give anythings... but I am sure if I continue this path I will lose myself. I will lose my career, I will lose even the friendship I also maintain with him
So you see, we both have different reasons.. but bottom line it is the RIGHT thing TO DO...If only the PAIN isn't this STRONG... i AM LOSING A GRIP ON MYSELF. But the more that I will linger with him it will also be fatal because by then we might end up HATING each other.
PLease help me.
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