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I met my friend Raymond when we started our freshman year of college. We instantly clicked and the first year of our friendship was awesome. We went from being great friends, to his behavior getting worse and worse our sophomore year. Here are the main things that are driving me nuts:
- He demands all of my time. It went from us seeing each other in class all day and hanging out once a week to seeing each other in class all day, him wanting to eat lunch together, him waiting us to do homework together, him wanting us to work out together, him wanting to watch a movie after we work out, him wanting us to walk to our morning classes together, rinse and repeat. I’m one of those people that needs some me time during the week, so this has been driving me up the wall.
- He won’t take no for an answer. If I have the gall to refuse to hang out with him for whatever reason, he treats me like dirt. There was one time I had the flu and was trying to rest. When he wanted me to come watch a movie and I said no, he flipped out on me and then acted like he never said the nasty things he said to me the next day. This doesn't happen every time, but it happens often enough to where it's really frustrating.
- He wants to be involved with everything in my life. The only thing Raymond and I have in common is that we're music majors. I don't mind trying new things, but it's a struggle for Raymond. I've tried getting him involved in some of the things I do with no luck, so when he still insists on inviting himself to absolutely everything I do, it's really frustrating. For example, I like going out dancing every once in a while, and I invited Raymond out with me once. He refused to dance, sat at the table the whole time and had a fit when I refused to stop having fun and sit with him. Come to find out, he hates dancing and the club environment, so I knew from then on not to invite him next time I wanted to go dancing. Since then, whenever I tell him I’m going out dancing with my other friends, he insists on coming along. I remind him that he doesn’t enjoy dancing, but he insists that thing will be different, and they never are. When I say he wants to get involved with everything, I mean EVERYTHING, even if he knows he’s going to have a bad time. I mention my mom and I are taking salsa lessons; he wants to come, even though he doesn’t like to dance. I try out for a play, he wants to as well, even though he has crippling stage fright. It would be a different story if he legitimately wanted to try something new, but he never wants to and always whines and pouts whenever we do something he doesn't like.
- He doesn’t take me seriously. Remember the flu story from earlier? Well I wasn’t going to let him talk down to me just because I was sick, so I pulled him aside the next day, told him what he told me was messed up, and the reason I didn’t want to hang out was because I’ve been sick for the last week. Instead of understanding where I was coming from or an apology, all he had to say was “If you’re so sick, why have you been in class for the past week?” It seems like whenever I try to have a serious talk with him, he either blows it off as a joke or throws what I say back in my face. It seems like he doesn’t respect my feelings at all.
I’m seriously sick and tired of going through this all the time. Hanging out with Raymond is now a chore to me, because if I don’t hang out with him enough, he gets upset. This sucks because we used to be great friends, but now he’s overstepping his boundaries and blowing me off whenever I try to explain this to him. I would like to salvage the friendship, but I’m not opposed to breaking it off if nothing changes. So in conclusion, my question is: What can I do to get Raymond to stop clinging to me so much? How can I get him to actually shut up and listen for once in his life?
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ask your friend what he thinks of you. like, what are you to him. if he's a true friend, he'll listen to you and make an effort to improve his character. talking does wondrous things. the thing is, look for the right time and do it when you're ready to confront him.
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My boyfriend and I hooked up last night, i gave him head and he came. Then about 5 mins later I went to the bathroom and peed and THEN i washed my hands :( Is there a chance im pregnent?! (link)
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okaaaay. you said you gave him head. doesn't that mean he didn't penetrate you? and what does peeing and washing your hands have anything to do with getting pregnant? no chances of getting pregnant without penetration. common sense, please.
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