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Hi! My name is Milana and I'm 13. I live in Brooklyn, New York and I'm in seventh grade. I'm American, I speak fluent Russain and I'm part Italian. I take Italian in Junior High so I know a little more than the others. I'm in althletics talent at school and I'm a true, all-out every sport kind of athlete. But my favorite sport of all time is soccer (GoOo ItaLy!!!). My life is just as crazy as any other pre-teen right now and I'm going through all of those "maturing young lady issues". I am an awesome writer and I love, love, LOVE to write so I decided to make a column. I love to get into other people's lives and help them, since mine is just too complicated. I want to be a lawyer when I grow up because I'm just SOOO stubborn. I've never lost an arguement before so what I say, GOES! Pleasee just ask a question and I promise you it'll be answered with my full potential. Tune in every day to see any new advice. Peacee

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My homeroom teacher in 6th grade was hott. When I say it like that, I MEAN IT EXACTLY THE WAY IT IS. I don't date guys my age and have never had a boyfriend. I've been asked a few times, but I never agreed. I'm alwayd crushing on the older, OLDER guys. HELP!!!

Wow. Well, this isn't much of an unusual case, but kind of hard for me. It isn't a serious problem. Have you ever looked at a man FULLY before? From the tip of the head, down to the heel of the feet? Think about that a little bit. Think, think, think... is that what you want to be the wife of? Is that image still in your mind? Picture it. Picture you when you're about 20, standing next to a 40 year old man in a tux, while you're holding a bouquet of flowers in your hands and a veil over your head. Keep the picture in your mind. Is this a reason for you to have not had a boyfriend throughout elementary and junior high? You didn't include your age, though, so I'll speak generally. I'm not trying to insult anyone reading for not having a boyfriend of an older age, or if they've never had a boyfriend yet. But think about this... try to imagine your kids. If you go on, attracted to men over your limit, picture your kids. Picture (sorry if it's a little personal) your sex life with him. Would you be able to go on like that? Don't worry much about it, because this is probably just a "long-while phase". But really try your best to understand. If this isn't a phase, you need to get over it. I'm trying my best to choose the right words and lay it out gently. But as much as I try, boo, these are the real facts. It's a harsh world out there. You'll get insulted, offended, and tore down if you insist.

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My mom is a psyciatrist [sp] and my dad is a physician. I get too much pressure every day about what I wanna be when I grow up, whom I want to date, where I wanna live when I'm older, who and when I'll marry, and so much more. They don't likr my boyfriend, they don't like my desired job (makeup artist and part time fashion designer), and they especially hate the fact that my boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 years now. I think it's because they have a feeling that he's gonna propose. I'm 17 and my parents still treat my like I'm only 12. What can I do about them?!?!?!?!

Okay, this is my first question so bare with me. If I go back to Naples, Italy (where I grew up), I'd remember all of the times my parents would stick their noses into my business, so I can relate. They'd always just say: "Siamo unica dificile a aiuto." It means: "We are only trying to help." I know it can be rough sometimes. My best friend's father is a phyciatrist. He's like a father to me now since my parents are divorced. But you know what, I know this really isn't helping, so I won't say what every other advicenator on this site would say. Instead of just telling you that "parents know best" or "they love you and are just trying to help you live your life to the fullest", I'll give you something a little more original. Unlike that obnoxious saying, parents aren't always right. There must be some reason that they don't like your boyfriend. Why would they REALLY treat you like a 12 year old if they didn't care about you, though. When you get those hard times when dad says "do you want to talk about it", don't say no. It means he knows you want to. Just talk to him. But when he asks you a personal question, (how is your sex like with this boy, why do you want to get married at such a young age), just tell him the truth, but leave out th details.

I.E.
"Dad, It's my choice. I'm 17, and I know what I'm doing."

Be brief. If you begin with the details, dad's gonna rub it in.

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