I'm Alana (Lana). I have brown hair with blonde highlights. I'm 13 and I live in NY. I love hanging out with my friends and goign shoping. I/M me on Summerr Babex or xmistak3nx if you have any personal problems you do not want to put on my advice column. Thanks for stopping by!
E-mail: Alana412@aol.com
Gender: Female
Location: New York
Occupation: hanging with friends
Age: 13
AIM: SummerrBabex
Member Since: July 10, 2005
Answers: 17
Last Update: August 6, 2005
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okay well right i have this friend her name is brittany and we were really close but lately like the only person she has been hanging out with is this other girl Christen and like me and christen are friends like we were really like like i am the only reason they are friends and both replaced me as there "BFFL" with each other and then when im just with one of them alone all they do is either try to make me jealous with stories or bitch talk the oter one and i cant stand it like i still want to be friends with them but like i dont and i know after a while brittany will get bored and come running back to me should i just close her out and not get close or let her use me i just cant stand them and when the 3 of us are together its hell for me cause Christen treats Brittany like a princess but i dont want to loose them and i tried talking to Brittany about it and shes like yeh i know i dont even like her and guess what they hang out for the next 5 days after i say that to her and like i told her how it bothers me and she just denis it i hate it !! and in a way them !! (link)
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uhmm well next timewhen they put you in that situsation tell them both right there that you dont like it when they leave you out. just tell them when their together how you feel. it might not work but its worth a shot!
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ok well i went out with this boy twice and now hes mad at me for getin all mad at him so now he doesnt want anything to do with me witch is not fair because i said i was sorry and i still love him but now i dont know what to do because he is mad at me please help
sincerly,
boy obsession (link)
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why dont you just liek let him be and try to explain how you feel for him or how you feel about the situation.maybe he will understand
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okay well i have had this boyfriend for 5 years since i was 13 nd im 16 now like we have always been serious and like we just starting hugging last year and he just kissed me last week on our offical 3 year aniversary and like i always wanted things to move faster but i feel weird taking the first move i mean hes already 17 nd he hasnt even gone onto 1st base but i know he really loves me and i wasnt things to speed up but i dont want to make the move and how am i sure he even wants it and maybe he does but he thinks i doesnt PLEASE HELP
Love Always
Too Prude
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um talk to him about it
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alright well i am 15 years old and i live with my parents obiovesly my dads name is Mike and my moms name is Talia my mom has had this friend Rachlel since she was 20 and there like the best friends everyother sat. Rachel my mom and my Moms Sis go out for the weekend and rent a place somewere and just party well i have always known how close they were well (Rach n my mom). they are so close like rachel is my secound mom i cant even explain how close they were well about last week i overhurd my mom talking to rach. on the phone and i swear these were the exact words "well i dont know how to tell them about us i mean i do love himm and it will break my little girls heart if i tell them the truth about our reletionship". I made sure on hte caller Id that it was Rach and from the impression i think my moms cheating on my dad with another girl but i dont know what to do i mean i might be wrong n i dont want to start anything
Love Always
Eaas Dropper (link)
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before you say anything try to find out more information becuase like you said you could be wrong and if you said anything you could put your family in a wierd situation that might change things for u .l. so just find out more stuff about this situation.. hope i helped
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well i got this friend whos named alana and she always keeps making comments on how black she is well im not racist at all but its really annoying concidering shes one of the palist things ever and she truely thinks shes blakc and acts like shes from the ghetto how do i break it to her that shes not
Sincrely
Learn your colors (link)
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yo well uhmm maybe she is black ! i mean man come on maybe shes loike micheAl jackson and died her skin!!!!
lovealways
ghetto girl
hah jk
mwah
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okay well me and this girl her name is lets say Jessica (not really) and we just meet this year when we came to the same middle school and we used to be really close now i cant stand her she gets really mean and she always gets jealous if im friends with other people so has the worst attidute and she lies and she cant keep secrets its soo freaking annoying shes so annoying and like she gets pissed like me her and this other person used to be close and he hates her now and like were still tight and she always talks about it and she gets mad if i dont tell her someone elses secrets and she always talks about me and tells things about and like other things like that and like i dont wanna stop bein friends with her cause im afraid shes gunna tell all my secrets and like now i feel bad like just yeh and im not allowed to like hang out with her cause our parents hate each other and like i dont wanna be friends with her anymore but like theres so much she could hold against me i dont know what to do please help me alana
Love always
phyco friends (link)
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well shes deffentitly not a true friend if shes doing all this stuff to you .. just be like stop being gay your annyoing and people wont liek you if uoi r and if she gets mad too bad for her shes not a true friend anyway and just be like no matter what secrets i told you .. you connot tell anyone cuz i know alot of your secrets too and maybe you too should work more at your relationship ! thanks hope i helped
(im not retarted i know who u r =])
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heyy lana ..
uhhhmm well its not really a hugee problem but like i have this friend (we'll call her friend 1 or F1) & she has a friend (friend 2 or F2) thats also my friend & F1 told me something about F2 that she doesnt like this other friend of ours (F3) but i dont think thats true because they are like BESTEST OF THE BESTEST FRIENDS. but if it isnt true then i dont kno if i should tell F2 about it and i dont kno if i should really trust F1 .. lana u kno me =) try iming the girl you always thought was emily .. haha (link)
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uhmm well dont tell f2 and it hink you still shoudl trust f1 and i dont knwo you so i/m me on summerr babe x and tell me who you r
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i dnt noe who i m because sometimes im som1 n other times im sum1 else n im confused wiyt who i realli am ?wat do i do? (link)
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try being just one person and if the case is that ur changing when your around certain people you dont need too becuase if they dont except who you r then their not important.. try to find out who you really are.
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hey alana -
none of my friends ever call me and i never hang out w/ any1 . idk what to do b/c lyk im afraid to call other pplz b/c once ive done it and they lied to me and i just dont feel right calling them especcialy since i dont really hang out w/ them . what sould i do ?
hope your advice works !! (link)
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maybe try making plans ahead of time with them so they wont lie to u and dont be affriad to call them .. if they lie to you then there deffenitly not true friends
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hi lannerr
listen i need yout help..see me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a long time..like 9 months i think or longer..we hang out alot or sometimes really and i love him..i think he loves me too..but i dont know..i think he has feelings for girls that he usto like or love..he makes promises and say i promise i promise an dthen he never keps them..weve takled about tthis before but all he says is hell make it better..i mean he did but just not the keepin promises..idk what to ..i try callin him but he is always wit his friend and never wants to pick up telphpne cause he is too like chicken shit to have a girl that he syas he loves..idont kno whayt to doo..please help me (link)
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well tell your boyfriend that he makes promises to you and he never keeps them and it pisses you off and/or gets you upset becuase he never keeps his word.. and you loose trust in him everytime he lies to u .. hopefully he'll see ur side and understand
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i need help bc my best friend jenna has this anyoing little sister alana and i dont noe wat to do because i think i might have to stop going over jennas house because of alana...
hahah just kiding..hah i love u alana (link)
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hmm .. well did u ever think they dont want you over?? better think bout that onne =]
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Dearr lanerrr
i dont noe what doo .. my boyfriend always ditches me for his friend and when i always ask hi if he wants to hanga and he sayss sure babee thenn i sayy okkayyy then the next day he comes home from lax camp soo then i go onlinee and see ifff his older sister is onn she iss!! yes i say to mysleff!! soOo then i sayy jill is your brother home and then i say okk then she says that he is leaving now to go to joes or anthonys or matts or wherever he is goingg then i get mad!!! soOo thenn i call him and he ocks upp annd sayss OO GOSHH WHERE LOSING RECEPTIONN!! then he hangs upp and then i say to0o mysleff ughhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! soo then i call himm backkkk and he doesnt pickk upp!! so0o i keep calling back and he still deosnt answerrr cause he noes im gonna ask where he is andd what he is doingg soo he deosnt pickk upp !! (link)
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well i think that you should confront your boyfriend and tell him that he always ditches you to hang out with his friends and itt hurts your feelings and whenever you call he ignors you..tell him u never see him and you want to hang out wtih him but he ditches you when he sys he would hang outwith you .. try to tell him how you feel and hopefully he\'ll understand!!!!!
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im a female.. and i have this friend allison.. well i have a boyfriend named john and weve been going out for like almost a year and i kno he likes me but my best friend allison is all over him all the time .. and when ever im not around she talks about himn saying oh hes gorgeous and i would so go out with him. and it kinda pisses me off becuase even when im around shes stil all over him and she doesnt even care and still he doesnt even try to get away from her.. but the thing is if i say something to her she'll be mad at me and be like oh please u get so jealous and she always tells me that we should break up and allison also tells people we never talk and that its pointless and we do talk but shes never around. shes really mean to me about it and stuff. and john always is liek yeh i like allison but he says it as a joke and stuff and it pisses me off .. !!!! what should i do about them??
sincerely HELP ME PLEASE! (link)
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Dear " HELP ME PLEASE! "
well i think that you should confront allison and tell her you would appriciate it if she tried to stay aay from your boyfriend. and also tell john to stop joking around saying that he likes her and just tell him to try an stay away from her too cuz its getting you upset and/or maybe ur getting a little jealouse. HOPE I HELPED!
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This is the only way i can make this short .. me and my boyfriend have been dating for over 2 months now and our relationship was going well. Like not even a week ago i started to hang out with these guys that he doesn't like or trust .. i told him that i was hanging with them and he got really pissed and we started arguing. In our relationship i am completely honest with him because i don't want to hide something from him and have him find out later from someone else and him get madder than he would've if i had told him in the first place. Well i am starting to have these feelings for a guy i've been hanging out with and i told my boyfriend. He totally flipped out because now he thinks that i like this guy more than i like him - which is NOT true at all. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and i always will no matter what happens between us. I'm just wondering if i should tell my boyfriend that we need to take a break from our relationship so i can figure out if the feelings for the other guy are deep or if i should just forget about the other guy or what?! PLEASE HELP! =( (link)
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i think you should take a break with your boyfriend that way you can sort out your feelings for the both of them and see if you can live with or without your boyfriend. if you have feelings for someone else then u dont love your boyfriend as much as you do/did. so try some time apart and think things through. hope helped
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I'm like a hugeeee tomboy. Like I wear long shorts and football jerseys. Im 14 and going into highschool, never had a boyfriend. Will i ever get a boyfriend. I mean, i dont wear makeup, and im big bulky and muscular. I want a bf, but i think maybe they are intimidated by me. Changing the way i am is NOT an option, i like who i am. PLEASE HELP. (link)
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well maybe the reason you can't get a boyfriend is because they see you as one of them or as one of their pals.. hopefully a guy withh fall for your personality and just open up to who u r on teh inside not on the outside.. hope i helped=]
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Ok, i had a boyfriend and we were totally in love, but we barely saw eachother (once or twice a month) because we both went to different schools and were in all honors and ap classes (aka TONS of hw). In the end he ended up breaking up with me because "I love you, but i really cant b attached to someone right now." We still ended up being best friends, but about a week ago he told me that he had never told his mom about us breaking up, and i asked him y. He told me that it was because he still loved me (after 2 months), and that he could never take down the picture of us that i gave him for valentines. We're going to the same school next year, and he wants to get back together then....should i go for it because i love him...or just not put the used gum back in my mouth? (link)
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if you still love him and he still loves you and you both have feelings for eachother i say go for it.. if your gonna go to the same school you might as well try it out again
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Hello. I am 14 years old, and have secretly been cutting for 3 years. I have never told anybody before, but I am wondering if I should. Would it be in my best interest to get help?
I have a lot of trouble trusting people,though.
Any advice would be appreciated.
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Well cutting yourself is not the answer to anything. But yes you should go to a person you trust the most and tell them u cut yourself. they may ask why so be ready for an answer. tell them you want help and hopefully they or somebody else can help you. Hope i helped.
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