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ok so i have small boobs. I am 15 years old and will be 16 in may this year.I'm a softmore in high school and I am a B cup. it seems like all the other girls in my grade have big boobs that fill out their shirts but mine are just small i even wear push up bras but that barely helps.:( all guys ever talk about is boobs and I want bigger ones or atrleast decent sized ones to my body is proportional. I have a nice butt alot of guys say but i have never once ever heard a guy tell me i have nice boobs. Its frusterating, what can I do to help this situation? (link)
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well.. a few thoughts
first of all, I have small breasts too, and in my experience, some men really like that. they might not be able to tell that you have nice breasts with your shirt on, but once you get to the stage (hopefully when you are in love and have known eachother a long time) where he's seeing you topless, a lot of guys are excited by small breasts because it generally means they are nice and perky! I used to be so insecure about it, I can remember crying about it as a teenager. But it really is a preference some men have, and then aside from that, a man who loves you on the inside will be naturally attracted to your body. I don't like how a lot of people are saying "a man who loves you just won't care", because he WILL care. he isn't going to be indifferent to the body of the woman he loves, but the fact is, he will love every aspect of you including your breasts, passionately! And feel blessed every time he gets to look upon it or touch it. It might sound cheesey, and it took me years and countless boyfriends to figure out, but with the right person you won't have to force it or worry about any of this, the chemistry will just be there, and be glaringly obvious. Don't worry about it! your body might still change, but I know my breasts were fully developed at that age, so who knows. everyone is different. The cool thing about our incredably diverse world is that for every body type, there is somebody somewhere who considers that the ideal. :)
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18/f, been in a happy, secure relationship for over 2 years.
At first, giving oral was something I would do to my boyfriend to impress him and let him know that I can be sexy. after months (and years) went by, I stopped having the desire to show him that side of me through oral sex. I've come to despise it, actually. I hate the taste, I hate that it makes my mouth sore, and I just don't like the feeling it gives me - like I'm degrading myself.
My boyfriend for the most part respects this. On his birthday, I've (unfortunately) made it a tradition to give him head and let him finish right then and there. Since his birthday's coming up, he keeps talking about it and how excited he is. I couldn't be dreading it more.
thinking about it upsets me because all the other girls I know love to perform oral on their boyfriends. It makes me feel abnormal and that my boyfriend deserves someone who would enjoy it as much as he does. I hate feeling this way and I'm never at peace with myself for it.
so, I'm not weird right? (link)
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you're not weird. but you're also not giving it a chance.
I used to not like giving head too. It was such a chore and not remotely sexy to me. But eventually I started dating a guy who it was fairly important to, and because I loved him, I compromised. I started doing it somewhat regularly and discovered that like with anything else, when you become proficient at something it is much more enjoyable. The reason it makes you sore is because your body isn't used to performing that action, and the solution is practice. Really, once you're good at it, it only takes away 10-15 minutes of your day, so what is the big deal? you can't set aside a tiny fraction of your day every once in a while to make the person you love feel good? Personally I just don't understand how other girls work.. If you love someone, shouldn't it provide you with a great deal of pleasure and satisfaction to make him feel good? Isn't that it's own reward? You can't deal with a few minutes of unpleasantness when you know it contributes to his quality of life? Just some thoughts, this is what I told myself years ago when I was trying to get used to giving head myself. Watching him react strongly to something I'm doing is so exciting, it totally negates any discomfort on my part. I really think if you love someone, that generally ends up being the case. Sorry if it sounds harsh, but I have been on the other side of it, with a partner who refused to perform oral, and it sucks. It made me feel unattractive that he was grossed out by being face to face with that area. Some people will say, if you love eachother, you will never want the other person to do something they're not comfortable with. And that's true, but it's also true in a relationship that each of you makes certain compromises and to me this seems like such a trivial one. If you feel differently that's a matter of opinion and you're totally entitled to it, I guess I just don't relate to that perspective. And I honestly think once you get used to it and it just feels routine, at a minimum it won't be nearly as unpleasant as you build it up in your head to be, and at a maximum you'll be like me and find that by doing it you discover what people like about it in the first place. Honestly I would feel bad if my man enjoyed something a great deal and I made him wait all year for 15 minutes of pleasure, when I could just get it out of the way, he'd be happier and I'd be no worse off and finished before I knew it. Anyways, that's just my 2 cents, I know a lot of people will disagree but I honestly just feel a bit sorry for the guy involved, I know how he's feeling.
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