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my boyfriend and i have been together on and off for about a year. we are together now. he is 21 and i am 19. i know it doesnt seen like much difference but to him it does. he sees me in his future and i see him in mine. we love each other as well. the only problem is that we dont really have anything in common. that is a problem for him. he likes sports and i kinda dont know what i like! but i go to his games, watch sports with him as much as i can. he does things for me too. but he asked me yesterday, 3 years down the road and we are married what will we talk about? that is his concern, that we have nothing in common and we wont have anything to talk about...(one of his concerns) so i guess i just want to know if we arent right for each other or what. thank you. (link)
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He should relax. It sounds like you two are doing pretty good. You're committed to eachother enough to try to enjoy your individual interests. One of the best things about a relationship is discovering new things together. So you may not like sports and he may not like your music. Two years from now the two of you may be very involved in ballroom dancing together. Some of the best couples are the ones who are always teaching eachother something new.
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I have a sort of complicated issue, so bear with me. I don't talk...but only sometimes. okay so it's like this:
in school, i don't really speak up much or try to get myself noticed. I don't know why. so everyone thinks I'm shy. But when I go out with friends, I talk to everyone we meet. I'm the one to meet with strangers and talk to them and become friends.
BUT whenever I meet people through other people, I also get shy and don't talk. I also don't know why. I just feel like I might not have something too interesting to say, but i KNOW that I'm really smart and can totally contribute to a conversation. I guess I'm only shy when there are very outgoing people around me. Like at a party, I will be the shy girl. But whenever people are shy around me, I'm the life of the party and get everyone talking. So I really don't understand this issue. It's becoming a problem because I am almost 18 and am needing to find a job and I seem to be really shy at interviews and stuff. And having trouble talking to customers... I don't know I guess I get shy only when I feel scared of failure...Like with people I don't want to embarrass myself with or authority or very outgoing people. I have no clue. Can anyone explain this or give me any tips? I know of course, don't be afraid or anything, and just think that you wont fail...but that doesn't work I still stay quiet... so any advice???? (link)
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Those who have difficulty in social settings have different reasons why. Some individuals develop a disregard for people because of childhood traumas. Others avoid other people because of a physical abnormality, real or imagined. Whatever the cause it all boils down to a lack of confidence in oneself. You're absolutely right. Simply telling yourself not to be afraid is not enough. Start to actively think of failures as opportunities to learn. When you do succeed make a point to recognize how well you did.Let yourself feel good about who you are. Once you feel confident about who you are as a person you will exude confidence to other people. You'll stop worrying about satisfying others and focus on satisfying yourself. Hope this helps. Good luck.
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Ok I am having a realy hard time finding a boyfriend and so do I need aboyfriend or not? (link)
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You don't need a boyfriend at all. Just be yourself and it will happen for you. Besides, if you're looking for love you'll never find it. It's one of those things that just kind of happens.
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I'm a female, and 15 years old. should I forgive my boyfriend, if he thinks he got another girl pregnant? because this only happened one time, and he says he loves me, and it wasn't he's fault that this happened, because the girl forced him to do it with her. (link)
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Unfortunately he's lying to you. I really doubt that this girl forced him into sex. I don't mean to sound harsh but at fifteen you two don't really know what love is. Does it really matter that this has only happened once? Have some respect for yourself and get away from this person who is using you.
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