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Hi! My name's Montana & welcome to my advice column. I'm 13 years old & I live in Florida. I'm a California native though & grew up in Beverly Hills so I'm very fashion savvy & into clothes. Even though I'm only 13, I've been through alot & would be happy to answer your question. Feel free to ask me anything, I would be happy to assist.
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QUESTION OF THE DAY
Making The First Move
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MY EXPERTISE
I'd be happy to answer any question but my favorite categories are Love Life, Friendship & Random Weirdo's. I'm in theatre though so any questions you have about acting, agents, singing, dancing etc. I can also answer.
Website: My Xanga
Gender: Female
Location: USofA
Age: 13
Member Since: May 28, 2005
Answers: 5
Last Update: May 29, 2005
Visitors: 1847
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This boy & I have been flirting/messsing with eachother all school year now. Everyone can tell we like eachother but neither of us will make a serious move. I know he won't because his friends will tease and he's a little shy/immature. I'm afraid of rejection & being teased. It's the end of the year and this boy is one in a million, I like him very much. What can I do to let him know being friends isn't enough and over the summer I want to see him? (link)
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I've been in this situation before & you're very lucky. Being friends with eachother & flirting alot is a good sign that you like eachother. However, one of you needs to make a move. The traditional way is for guys to ask girls out but HEY this is the 21st century so ANYTHING goes. He's probably feeling the same way you are. Afraid of rejection. Even though you like him, he may not know that for sure or he may not have enough proof to be confident enough to ask you out. If you talk to him online, start a conversation about how summer is almost here and how you're gonna miss him. If he replies with missing you as well, suggest that the two of you hang out. If you don't talk online, you could always leave a friendly message in his yearbook, with your # telling him you'd love to hang out sometime. Remember to put plenty of heart's & xo's! If you need any more help, feel free to let me know!
xo♥ monty
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i am so bored and i dont know what to do. does anyone have any fun websites to go to exepct bored.com because its acully boring. i want to like like dress up people or something girly thanks i rate! please dont say barbie.com (link)
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Cosmopolitan.com has a great makeover game! You can even add your own picture & give yourself a new hairstyle & some fabulous new makeup. Definitely great for a girly night in. Have fun!
xo♥ monty
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i really need help. I want to break up with my boyfriend cuz im tired of him hurting me and feeling like he doesnt care about me. but... I dont want him to hurt himself / commit suicide. Im talking to him on AIM now and he says i should see all the blood and that it hurts and he doesnt want to live. I havent even told him that i want to break up with him but i think he figured it out.
i want to break up with him but i dont want him to hurt himself. But i think he already has =\. What can i do? I know i should tell somebody about him hurting himself, but i dont really know what to tell them...?? please help me! (link)
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Wow, this is a very difficult time in your life. I'm sorry you're facing this & that he has hurt you before. Any man that hurts another woman in relationship is definitely not the right one for you. Problems like this just get worse over the years so it's important you put a stop to it immediately.
You made a wise choice to text him. Sometimes one-on-one communication isn't the best, especially since he sounds violent. Don't worry about him hurting himself. If he has physically harmed you in any way, you should not feel guilty. I know you can't help it though because naturally, you worry about him.
Also, telling someone would be smart. Start off by telling a guidance counseler at school or your parent. There are also hotlines for abusive relationships. They are nice people that are willing to help. Best of luck with this. Remember to worry about yourself because as I can tell, he is not right for you & you need to be safe. I hope this works out & if you need any more help, I'll be here.
♥ monty
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i cant cope. My mom use to be an alcoholic my dad use to beat my mom my mom us when she was drunk adn now i love to get drunk because ut gets rid of my troubles and i dont know where to start. I looked afta my sis and mbro when i was 9 and now my moms clean and moved out of my dads house i dont know where start i love my drink but dont want to go the same way as my mom. I hold a chip on my shoulder but dont quite know to who and dont know wot to do about it. Please please help. Vicki x (link)
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You've been through quite alot. I'm sorry but it's sounds like you've been brave through it all. My recomendation is to keep playing over and over again in your head the troubles your mom faced. This may kill you to think about at first but it will make you give up your drink. Think about your future & though a bit of alchohol may rid you of your troubles, they don't really go away, drinks just drown them temporarily. Try picking up a new hobby that you can drive your energy into. It will make your problems fade because your concentration is going into one thing. Also, some new positive friends will come in handy. Try getting involved with the community, it's a great way to make new friends who will be there for you. If you ever need anymore help, feel free to let me know, I'm always available.
xo♥ monty
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hi i need some advice i cant seem to find a girl that likes me i ask and everyone says im a good guy and anygirl would be happy to have me but i just cant find one that does i feel so depressed and sad that i cant get one
Signed ~Needed Love~ (link)
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First off, make sure you never stop being a good guy. Even if you're feeling a bit ignored and that all the "bad guys" are getting the girls, don't change. The good guys always win in the end and I preffer them. From a girl's point of view, I think you should just try making friends with some girls. Friendship means you'll get to spend time with more girls and they will eventually end up having some sort of feelings for you because when you spend alot of time with a certain person who is of opposite gender, you can develope a crush. Girls also like guys they can trust so building a relationship based on friends is the best way to show them that. Good luck & if you ever need any help, feel free to ask me.
xo♥ monty
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hi i need some advice i cant seem to find a girl that likes me i ask and everyone says im a good guy and anygirl would be happy to have me but i just cant find one that does i feel so depressed and sad that i cant get one
Signed ~Needed Love~ (link)
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First off, make sure you never stop being a good guy. Even if you're feeling a bit ignored and that all the "bad guys" are getting the girls, don't change. The good guys always win in the end and I preffer them. From a girl's point of view, I think you should just try making friends with some girls. Friendship means you'll get to spend time with more girls and they will eventually end up having some sort of feelings for you because when you spend alot of time with a certain person who is of opposite gender, you can develope a crush. Girls also like guys they can trust so building a relationship based on friends is the best way to show them that. Good luck & if you ever need any help, feel free to ask me.
xo♥ monty
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