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Right now I'm really scared... So I hooked up with my friend on Friday, April 10th... I went down on him, and he didn't finish before I stopped.. I probably got a little pre-cum in my mouth if anything.
The next day or so.. I had a cold sore. It's April 14th now.. and its starting to heal... well almost all the way gone, but I also have soars on the top of my lips that I just noticed today.
Just two tiny little bumps though, and I have REALLY clear skin.. I never break out, I don't think it could have been anything I've eaten, because anything I've eaten has been things I've always eaten.
Could it be herpes? I mean, he's only been with one partner.. I'm not sure how many people she's been with though...
This was the second time we hooked up. The first time was about a month and a half ago, and we did the same things, just foreplay.. I went down on him, but he didn't finish before I stopped... And nothing ever happened after then, no break outs or anything... I don't know if I got any pre-cum in my mouth, I'm assuming some... but I really don't know..
Could this me herpes? I'm really scared.
Or is this just a coincidence...?
Please help.
Also, where can I get this checked out.. at a regular doctor's office? (link)
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Yes, you can find out by visiting your primary care physician.
If you've never had these types of sores before, then it is possible that you have been infected. The only way to find out for sure is to see a physician.
In many cases, shortly after being infected, you would experience your first outbreak. Generally, the first outbreak is severe, as your immune system has never fought off the virus before. Since you only have a few sores, it may just be coincidence.
In either case, you do not have to be scared. If you do in fact have oral Herpes, or Herpes Type 1, you will experience outbreaks from time to time but this virus is not life-threatening. It's more of a nuisance, as the sores may hurt a bit. As for social implications, a large percentage of the population have the virus, though some may not recognize their symptoms as Herpes.
Eventually, the outbreaks will become less frequent or may not occur at all. You may feel a tingling sensation in areas where you've had sores but your immune system may suppress it before visible symptoms occur.
There is medication that you can take that will shorten the length of outbreaks. However, this medication may lose effectiveness and may even cause the outbreaks to occur more frequently. You may wish to use it for a time, especially if the initial outbreaks are severe and painful and then eventually stop use of the medication.
Certain foods may trigger an outbreak, such as tomatoes and acidic drinks such as orange juice. Stress is another possible trigger.
I suggest you speak with a doctor, as the information I've given you may not be 100% correct. I have Type 1 and so my answer is based on personal experience only.
I began experiencing symptoms my junior year of high school. I had not yet had any romantic relationships so I was befuddled when I was told I had Herpes. I learned that it was possible that it could have come from anywhere really - using a poorly washed utensil while at a restaurant or wiping my face with a towel that had the virus.
At first, my outbreaks were massive and painful. I was prescribed medication and the first time I used it, everything just went away like magic. Later on, it stopped working so well and outbreaks became more frequent. However, by the time I graduated high school, things settled down and I hardly noticed it any more. Sometimes, I could feel the beginnings of an outbreak but I never again had a full-blown outbreak.
I recommend speaking with a doctor to find out for sure. Hopefully, it's just coincidence that you have these sores and you're not infected. If you are, it's not the end of the world.
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So I m 15 almost 16 and pregnant, my baby is due in late October early November. My boyfriend and I would like to stay together and raise our baby, and do the best we can we know it will be hard but we are up to it. He is a senior and graduating and taking over his dads company so money isn't an issue.
My parents are the issue, they don't like my boyfriend and think that if I have this baby and keep it then I will hand it off to them to raise. They want me to put the baby up for adoption. I think this would be very hard and I think I would regret it. What should I do? Im very confused on what I should do I don't know if I should just give the baby up for adoption or try to talk to my parents more about keeping it.
My parents always have said and still say that I am a smart enough girl to do anything I want and put my mind to but if I say I want to raise my baby and keep it they say i can't? Why are they going against what they have always said?
Also is there any way to get this pregnancy off my mind? I feel like everything I do I start thinking about the arguments at home and just being pregnant it keeps distracting me when Im at school and work and even when Im at home trying to fall asleep my mind just keeps wandering...
Sorry its long but just need help. (link)
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Dear Juno:
You and your parents may have had your life all mapped out but a baby certainly changes things. You have been afforded an opportunity to love and be loved unconditionally by another human being. While having a baby wasn't part of your original plan, you can still have everything that you've always wanted for your life. You may have to take a different route to get there or work a little harder but it's still very much there in front of you.
As for your parents, I suspect they are in panic mode. They'll come around eventually and offer you the support that you need.
The decision is yours. Don't let anyone pressure you into a decision that is not of your own volition. You may end up resenting whomever led you to that decision for the rest of your days.
If you choose to keep your baby, love him or her with all you've got. Get help when needed. Do the very best you can. Everything will be all right.
Pete Peeves
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Last summer when my niece turned 16 I gave her my car as a gift, as she was about to learn how to drive. It was 8 years old and had 120,000 miles on it, a perfect car for a young, new driver.
Now, partly because the economic collapse has made it a buyer's market, my brother and sister-in-law have decided to buy a new car. However they can't afford, for insurance purposes, the gifted car, which would now become a third car in their family. So with my niece's okay they decided to sell the car which I had given her as a gift.
My question is (not for legal reasons but regarding the etiquette of the situation) should I receive any money once the car is sold? I feel like I gave my niece a gift, the type of gift which a teenager rarely receives, and that gift has turned into a money-making sale for my brother and sister-in-law, which obviously was not my intention. They see the situation differently, i.e., the car is now theirs, the picture has changed, and they can do this without regard for my feelings.
Thank you for your response. (link)
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Dear Mrs. Claus:
Giving your niece a car was a nice and generous gesture. It is unfortunate that she was not able to keep it.
Given the mileage, the car is not likely to sell for much. Attempting to obtain money from its sale is really not worth the risk of damaging the relationship you have with your brother and sister-in-law.
Gifts are not to be given with strings attached. Once you've given a gift, you no longer lay claim to it. The recipient can do with it as he or she pleases. You should not require nor expect any money from its sale.
If you had given the car to the parents and they no longer wanted it, I believe they should first offer it back to you prior to selling it. In terms of etiquette, that would be the right thing to do. However, you would still decline its return. It was a gift and if they'd find more use for the money, it's their prerogative to sell it.
If anything, your niece should expect money from its sale. The car was given to her and she is the one who is losing out. As you said though, she approved the decision to sell the car. Hopefully her parents will treat it as a loan from their daughter and replace the car at some point down the road.
Though I did not give you the answer for which you are looking, I hope you will find my advice useful.
Pete Peeves
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Ok, so one of my friends went out with a very beautiful girl and i began to like her. I was not aware that he still likes her and i recently found out. But he would not admit it to me everytime i asked him. I do not know if i should not take any actions because she tells me all the time im cute or i dress the best or im hot and all this stuff but i do not think it is right because he is one of my close friends and he acted like he doesn't care so what do i do? (link)
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Dear Ric Ocasek:
Is it possible that you and she can date a few times without your friend knowing? That may sound duplicitous and therefore wrong, but if it turns out there is nothing there between the two of you, you don't have to see her again and no harm is done. If it turns out there is something there, then it's worth...well, everything!
Now, there is a "code" among men. I believe it goes something like, "Thou shalt not date my girlfriend, ex or otherwise." I understand the sentiment behind the code but I do not believe it should be a hard-and-fast rule.
So, why the code? Well, even in a situation in which a parting of ways between boyfriend and girlfriend is a mutual decision, some semblance of feeling will remain. There were good times and special moments between your friend and this woman that will forever remain in his memory, unless he develops Alzheimer's. There's no chance he might be on the path, is there? Assuming he continues to remember who this woman is, your friend will always feel linked to her in some way. It will hurt him to see her with someone else, and if that someone happens to be you - his friend - he will feel betrayed.
The real question here is this: are you solely drawn to her beauty? If so, dating her is probably not worth losing a friend. However, if you think that there may be the slightest chance that this is someone with whom you can form a relationship, you have to take a chance.
If after a couple of dates, you decide you want to see more of this woman, you must then tell your friend. He may react unfavorably at first but hopefully come around in the end.
Don't wonder what could have been. Take a chance on love. Love is all you need.
Pete Peeves
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