I am a happy, optimistic person and am following my dreams. I enjoy when I am able to help those in need. I'm a hell of a lot cheaper than a therapist, so if you would like some advice, don't be shy. No judgment here!
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Last Update: July 3, 2016
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So I tried out for cheerleading in 6th grade but I didn't make the team. So I'm doing some practicing I make the team this year. (Going to 7th grade).
But I want to be on the football team now. Yes, I'm a female but I'm in love with football and I now everything about it. I want to try out for quarter back.
But I don't know which one to choose (link)
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Choose whatever it is that excites you more. If you don't know what that is, flip a coin.
Your reaction to a coin toss might answer the question for you. For example, if you flip a coin and it lands on cheerleading and you find yourself thinking "Darn, I really wanted play football", then you know what the real answer is. If you really feel like it is a tie, then there is no wrong answer.
Do what excites you at the moment, and if that ends up changing later, it is okay. Sometimes we find out what we do want by learning what we don't want first.
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Not trying to brag, but I have such an awesomely lovely personality. I care about people infinitely more than I could ever care about myself. I give my last ten dollars to someone who needs it more than me. I would sacrifice all my sleep to stay up listening to someone rant or giving them advice even if I don't know them too well or they've hurt me in the worst way possible. I compliment everyone, especially if they seem like they've had a bad day. I feel people's pain, I cry with them. I talk good about everyone; I NEVER have anything bad to say about anyone. I've never hit a person that includes slapping, so yeah, I've never been in a fight once in my life. I'm usually called the sweetest thing ever with the biggest heart. My dream career has always been to help people - but I chose to do senior caregiving since I love the elderly with all my heart. I pray for everyone's happiness, because it hurts my heart to think about someone in pain. I never yell or argue with anyone.
I love my personality, even though I feel I could improve it so much more. But I just find myself SO ugly. :'( And it really bothers me, even though most people say I'm very beautiful. How can I see it, or at least be able to just focus on my personality? I just feel so low about myself. I don't feel good enough for anyone, which is why I only have one friend. Maybe someone could give me advice on feeling good enough too? :'( I'm just so depressed because of this, please help! :'( (link)
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You sound like a very positive person, and it is important for you to be comfortable in your own skin. After all, there are some things we can change about ourselves, and some things we can't. The best possible thing we can do is learn to accept the things we can't change (I know in such a superficial society this is much easier said than done).
There are people out there who see passed the superficial, and having the strength and confidence go through life not worrying about what people think is one of the biggest liberators in existence. Besides, why would we want to surround ourselves with superficial people?
I know there is no easy answer for how you feel, but learning to accept yourself and love yourself is going to make all the difference in the world.
If you would like a little light reading that might help change your perspective in a positive way, try "The Four Agreements". Here is a little intro to it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oPeEctLrvQ
Treat yourself with the same kindness that you treat others with :-)
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I'm 12 in the 6th grade going to 7th. And I kinda already know what to be in the future. I have 2 options I chose.
1. Be an actor on Nickelodeon
or
2. Be in a band and play guitar
I'm already in a band right now and doing a cover with my friends so that's starting the musical career. But I'm going out to find places to audition with my mom. So that's sorta starting the acting career.
Which one should I choose? Thanks 💘 (link)
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Choose whatever it is that excites you more. If you don't know what that is, flip a coin.
Your reaction to a coin toss might answer the question for you. For example, if you flip a coin and it lands on actress and you find yourself thinking "Darn, I really wanted the band", then you know what the real answer is. If you really feel like it is a tie, then there is no wrong answer.
Do what excites you at the moment, and if that ends up changing later, it is okay. Sometimes we find out what we do want by learning what we don't want first.
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Hello! I am 17 (about to be 18 in a month), and I have recently been talking to a family friend who I have known for over 5 years now. I graduated high school in May, and he came up with my cousins to go to my graduation party. We have known each other for so long because he's been my cousin's best friend since they were children, and he is almost seen as part of the family at this point. They live a few towns over (about 3 hours away) so we see each other a lot at family events, but not too much otherwise. Since my graduation party late May he has reached out to me on multiple occasions just to talk. He gave me his number, and we've been texting a lot this past month. He is usually always the one to initiate a conversation by texting first, and he throws in a lot of flirty compliments really nonchalant. The other night he told me I was stunning, and he loves how much I make him laugh. He pays so much attention to what I like, and he is always throwing in little things he remembers about me into the conversation. He also told me that he can open up to me so easily, and that a future with me in it is a bright one. He's very cheesy, but I adore that childlike sense of wonder about him. I think the biggest issue is his age because he's 23 (which is a big age difference for me). I really like him, and I enjoy how fun it is to flirt and talk with him. I don't expect this to necessarily turn into something so I'm going with the flow to have fun with it, but there's a small part of me that hopes it could potentially turn into something more. Am I being naive to think that an older man would want to be more than friends with me because he genuinely cares for me? In the hypothetical situation anything did happen it would be strange for my family because of how close he is to my cousins and my uncles. Is there any way to work around that or would it be smarter for me to stay away from the situation altogether? I understand he is in a completely different stage in his life, and I am also understanding that I may just be asking for trouble by getting myself involved with him. Thank you for listening, and I appreciate/am open to any advice! :) (link)
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You are right, it is easy to be someone else over text messaging, and to act differently when family is around.
My advice would be to start hanging out together as friends, and see how you feel about him as you get to know each other better.
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