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my bf and i are a very happy couple. however, on the occasions that we do fight, his anger gets awful. when we first started dating, it wasn't that bad (he'd yell and things like that). over time, it's gotten worse (punching walls, calling me names). he's never hit me, but today we got into a fight and i admit (i smacked him and things, but i only do that if i felt like he was crossing the line). and although i'm wrong for doing it, he called me things like the 'b word', and he even shoved me violently and pinned me down on the bed to get in my face. also, he threw something at me. every time we reconcile, he keeps saying how he knows how angry he gets and he tries to calm it. but then he blames ME for getting him that angry and that's why it gets uncontrollable. i don't know who's wrong here anymore. it's not like he's violent all the time (no, he's not abusive in the normal sense). but it just happens when we argue. someone please tell me what to do thank you. (link)
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My advice is: RUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!! You are in an ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP and both you and your partner are following a route that is not healthy!!!
I was in a 2 ½ years relationship with my ex, we lived together and I thought he was the best guy in the world, I thought I was going to marry this guy.
Things were good until he showed me a side of him that I didn’t see before: he was VERY abusive. He will put me down all the time, blaming me for everything (he was always right and I was always wrong), I arrived to a point that I started to believe that I really was the person he told me to be.
Eventually one night he hit me and I found myself with a bleeding purple lip before my best friend wedding.
Stupid me I didn’t leave because he promised me that he will go to therapy.
Reality is that no therapy will change who you are, if you don’t recognize a problem in you, and he really didn’t see anything wrong with himself, he did it just to save himself in front of the justice (because at a certain point police was involved).
It’s a long story, but I arrived to a point that I just couldn’t look at this monster anymore, he is horrible and he will not change.
Run away for your safety, it will get worse!!!
It will be hard but you are going to be happy, don’t be afraid to be alone, at the end you are already alone in this relationship!!!
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