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Q: ok so im 16/f and i dont masturbate, really i get nothing out of it. im sexually active though and very pleased with my fiancee, however- i dont think ive ever actually climaxed...everyone says its this huge build up then you cum and feel all better- never had that feeling, how do i make myself climax? or how can i tell? cuz if i do i dnt feel it. thanks
A lot of women complain about not climaxing during sexual intercourse. It's nothing to worry about, your time will most definitely come. As for advice, have I got some good stuff for you!

A scientific fact, which seriously interests me, goes like so: men, when watching porn, can only watch straight porn (girl + guy) or lesbian porn. When it comes to straight porn, we all know they're really looking at the girl. Women, however, get aroused not by whom they are watching, but the sensuality of what they see and hear.

A lot of women prefer lesbian porn over straight or gay porn simply because the sensuality is so much stronger; the touching and moaning gets them off. I suggest you search online for a sensual porn video or movie, watch a few minutes, turn up your speakers, and wait. After a while, you will definitely start to get turned on. Try masturbation, and see what happens.

I assume the reason you get nothing from masturbation is because you're never aroused when you're alone. Maybe watching some seriously good porn can fix that problem. Hope this helps!

Q: 15 year old female . & i want to be in charge of the relationship . my boyfriend lately has beeen in the i dont give a crap mood and he talks to girls and he gets mad about everything . he is always making fun of me and stuff in front of his friends and he always treats me bad and makes me feeel like if i was his dog or something. is there any way that i can stay with him , but make me be in charge ? and stop him from treating me this way ?
Guys PMS just like girls do. They have their off-days, their bitchy moods, and even their 'leave-me-alone' moments. A guy, however, who can't handle his own PMS-Syndrome and can't see what amazing things he has in front of him, is an untrained guy.

My advice to you: throw on the pants from your relationship for a day. Throw on some sexy clothes, change your usual hairstyle for a day, and make yourself look completely sex-able.

Meet him with his friends and be completely wanted. Flirt a little with his friends in front of him (don't over-do that, of course) and make him see exactly what he saw in you when he first asked you out.

Show him what he's missing, and be the sexiest girl you can be. Wink at him once in a while, and from time to time, lick your lips. Touch him when you talk to him, and make sure he wants you more than ever. I promise you that no man can resist it. I'm pretty sure that'll get his blood pumping again!

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MilanaLipkind
I've been through a lot; more than many people should. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and I'm here to listen. I'm seeking advice for a lot that's going on in my life, just like you. I aspire to be a journalist, or an advice columnist. I take journalism classes and have learned a lot about answering people's questions on a wide variety of topics. Ask me anything, and hopefully, you'll be satisfied with your answer.

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