Member Since: December 6, 2011
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Last Update: December 6, 2011
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So my best guy friend recently got a gf. Ill start from the begining. My bestfriend got us to like eachother....a lot. I soon fell for him, and I think he did for me too. We Did do things (I.e. make-out) and soon after we were telling eachother that we loved eachother. He was the first one to say I love you too me also. So lately I asked him out..he said "I would. Say yes, but i might be going to jail, and I don't want a gf if I go to jail" I said "ok" kissed him, and he walked me home. I knew he also liked another girl along with me. So I'm guessing that either he asked her out, or she asked him..he apparently said yes. He decided to tell me over facebook....here i the conversation. Him:hey, I hve some bad news, me:ok what??, him: I kinda sorta have a girlfriend, me: oh....., him:yea, me:so what now?, him:idk, me:oh wait..let me guess who it is..(the other girl he liked name). He didn't reply, and soon after..he blocked and deleted me from his friends list. I don't understand why though... I don't think i did anything wrong, did I?? Can someone please tell me what is going on?? (link)
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The fact there is even a slim chance he may or even may not go to jail is an answer in itself! That plus the fact this guy called and is like - Umm - I sort of kind of have a girlfriend? You sort of kind of have a headache ... Not a girlfriend. You deserve better than this ... I promise!!!
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I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years, and our relationship has been through various things (We got together when he was in his final year of high school, I was in my second last) As you can see, this meant that our relationship went through seeing each other almost every day, to once or so a week once he graduated and started working and now we see each other whenever we can, as I am in university and he is still working (but starting university next year).
The thing is though that I get clingy. I know it myself, and I've been trying to work on keeping the distance. My boyfriend would really like to disappear for a day or two every now and then. But I somehow always get the feeling that if I didn't initiate contact, it could be a week without me hearing from him and I'm not really up for such.
Right now, I'm just asking for tips on how I can keep my distance. In the sense that if we were together one day, how do I resist temptations to text or whatever him the next day already?
Overall, how do I keep myself from being overly-clingy?
Naturally I have other friends, and I do things with them, as well as I am busy with university studies so I am not a forever alone person dependent on my boyfriend! Of course not.
But the temptation to text is still there, if that makes sense.
Anyone have any tips? I know he gets tired of this sometimes, and he's honest about it. But at the same time he knows I'm trying and it's not as if I am purposefully like that. (link)
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It makes complete sense to me and I'm sorry that the only advice I have is to just keep up with the studies and your friends. Keep busy!!! When you get the urge to text him ... Text your friend instead, call a family memeber ... come on here and give advice. Just make yourself think of doing something/anything that does not have to do with him. It's a mind over matter thing ... I know easier said than done but you can do it!!!
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