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I’m a 16 year old girl and I’ve never had a boyfriend before, unless you count elementary when I had a boyfriend for like 2 hours then we broke up cause we had to go home for the day. I’ve come close to having boyfriends, one was 7 or 8 grade, he wasn’t the best looking but I don’t pay attention to looks and he treated me with a lot of respect so I did like him but my mom said I was too young and plus he was moving to a whole another state as well so that didn’t work out. In 6 I had a crush on a guy but he asked my sister out and she knew I liked him so she happily dated him for 3 months then broke up with him for unknown reasons. Another one was at bible camp and he confessed his feelings for me via Snapchat but my dad and stepmom didn’t want me dating either so I told him that and he stopped talking to me completely. Even when I did try to talk to him over Snapchat and at church he pretended to not know me or he would just go on his phone and ignore my whole existence. Which is weird cause I use to watch his little brother in the preschool and his other siblings seem to like me as well. But I guess I did dodge a bullet cause when I told him I wanted to work in film he kind of made me feel bad like I was an idiot for wanting to be a director when he wanted to be a doctor. And another time I came very close, he was about to ask me out but he found out that me and my sister were related-mind you I look like my dad and my sister looks like our mom so you wouldn’t even stop to think we were related, you wouldn’t think we were cousins either-from our mom when we both said hey mom. Turns out he asked my sister out before our soccer game and she said no so I was his second choice. Another time a boy asked my sister out and she basically said “I don’t like you but I have a little sister who’s desperate.” So I’ve never had a boyfriend and I’m kind of scared that I won’t ever have one. And me being a tomboy and somewhat “aggressive” (with sports and competition) doesn’t really help either. I do want one but the boys at my school are how you’d say into the girls that act ghetto and they’re pretty dumb themselves. I guess I’m asking for reassurance cause I do want the white picket fence and the family dog or cat or whatever the kids want but I’m scared that because of the line I want to work in which is film and the fact of my inexperience of being in a relationship that that lifestyle is out of my reach. Also growing up in a family where my grandmas were married to my grandfathers literally as soon as they got out of high school doesn’t really calm me down. And my grandpa asking me when am I gonna have a baby-I’m 16 by the way-isn’t really helping either. I just need some advice on this matter. (link)
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What you could do is follow your dream job, there's no point in rushing the things or changing yourself, you'll come across the right person sometime, someone who suport you and makes you happy, not the one who put you down. Futhermore, makes ther others around you(familly) know what's happening, then they could try to be supportive to you and wait you make your own way to your future.
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