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Gender: Female
Location: California
Age: 19
Member Since: July 29, 2012
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I decided to write down everything that I have been feeling lately so that I can better understand my emotions:

-I get stressed really easily.
-I have trouble adjusting to change.
-I’m hypersensitive to every little thing I do. It was brought to my attention that sometimes I say things that offend people, but I don’t mean it to or even notice it. Now, I constantly worry and fixate on instances where I think I may have made someone feel uncomfortable. It makes me feel like I shouldn’t see people because I am going to do something embarrassing or stupid.
-I envy other people.
-I try to overcompensate for my insecurities.
-I am afraid people are judging me.
-I feel lonely frequently.
-I have trouble taking control of my emotions.
-I feel like I’m always forgotten.
-I crave attention from others for validation.
-I feel like people take me for granted, and I question how much people actually care about me.
-My emotions are very up and down. I feel happy sometimes, but when I’m alone and have time to think, I just feel sad and negative inside.
-I tried to reach out to my boyfriend many times, but he just got frustrated and angry with me every time I wasn’t happy. I try to hide it or not talk about it when I’m with him because he either doesn’t listen to me or he gives me the impression that doesn’t really want to hear about what I have to say because he ignores me. I’m afraid that if I stay like this, he won’t want to be with me anymore. I told him that I was thinking about going to therapy, and he was all for the idea. I am too, but at the same time, deep down I feel like he just doesn't want to deal with me being this way and just wants to push it off to someone else.

All I want to know is... does anyone have tips for me to change my attitude towards life? I feel that if I change the way I react or perceive things, it would be the best way to end my sadness or at least allow me to feel more content with myself.
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I can so relate this to my past. What I do to help myself is go for walks at any calm/happy environment. I also recommend you surround yourself with positive people. Everyone has insecurities and problems. Take a moment and embrace what you have. Some people will always judge, don't let that stop you from being happy. Although a little akward at first, talk to yourself before speaking. The PAST is past. Let things happen. If things go wrong/unplanned, oh well. Laugh about them instead of being sad. (:




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