My name is Li-SHi Ju (LJ for short please) Most people call me: spiky, Jupiter, baldy(long story), etc. I'm not really bright, I'm not athletic at all. What I do have is a loud voice and a sense of humor. And a kind heart to those who are open to it. Basically I just wanna give advice to people who need it~~~~(the end)
Gender: Male
Location: Taiwan but live in Belize
Occupation: duh I'm doing this aren't I?
Age: 17
AIM: Live life MY WAY
Member Since: May 6, 2006
Answers: 2
Last Update: May 23, 2006
Visitors: 1026
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so my best friend in the entire world likes this big jerk. he's a nice guy sometimes but then he can be a total loser. so when shes mad at him he'll be nice to her and she'll automatically like him again. its so annoying because how can someonebe so mean to you and then you keep liking them? how can i tell her this is happening without actually saying that and hurting her feelings...? (link)
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unfortunately in this kind of case there's no such thing as telling without hurting her feelings. If she really likes him she'll stay that way until he really messes up with her. Then she'll leave him. You can do two things in this case. Either smash her heart into pieces and cut her off of a bad boyfriend, or you can try to have her talk to her boyfriend (best if you're there too) and work things out. Compromise a little. At this point that's the best you can do unless you wanna sit and wait for things to unravel.
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ok so, my dad is a complete jack ass, according to me, he is completly insane and its driving me crazy.....thats my dad
my mom is sick, she has manic depression, she bought a bottle of perscription drugs and hid the EMPTY bottle, so this gave my jack ass of a faher the idea that she was on drugs! she said she was giving them to her one friend who is the same way as her, manic depression, he just doesnt choose to go to the doctors.....thats my mom
well they have been argeing since before i was born, i recently found out,
it drives me nuts and my dad, i think and my mom does too, is a total NUTCASE!!!!! he bitches at everything and he even spit on my mom once, another ime, this was like 4 years ago, he pinned her down cuz he got mad. i called him mental! he was like yea yea yea you think whatever the hell you want and go on keep letting your damn mother put things into your head, i said that she doesnt but he wont believe me. they argue about everything, you name it they fight about it, we even went to counciling once, they dragged me and my sister ino it!,THEY FOUGHT ABOUT THAT WHEN WE GOT OUT OF OUR SESSIONS!!! its crazy. my mom is thinking about me her and my sister are gonna move out in a couple of months, im happy, the only problem is that i dont want her to be alone, in a single way, because she is sick. knowing that i know that when we move, im gonna be the one taking care of both my sister and my mom. which i am kinda used to but i dont know i just dont want to have all the stress of getting me AND my sister AND my mom up in the morning, and then coming home from school and cleaning the house and everything!! so my questions are, should i worry? and, Do you think that its a good idea for them to get a divorce? and how do i help my mom and me and my sister deal with my moms sickness once we move out? please dont tell me to suck it up, im only 14 years old and my grandmoher said i shouldnt have to deal with all this and that i have grown 2 years in only 6 months!! help me please there is just sooooo much stress!!
sorry its long but *ill rate 5's for n e one with a good answer
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This is a very tremendous burden even for an adult to be taking care of their family. Things will get bumpy at times. But all you have to do is realize that you are doing this out of love for your mother and sister.
Since your father has no evidence of changing his behavior than definately they should get a divorce. Or at least a separation period. Your father need to find the root of his problem before he can properly take care of his family. Otherwise it's better to keep distance.
You and your sister should find advise from a professional to deal with your mother. But generally, just be patient with her. Show her you love her. Make her proud. Just talk things out with her. This will be a stressful period. But just look at the end where your family will be happy, and you'll realize it'll all be worth the effort.
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